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*endy2012
writes:I have been married for seven years and my husband has been very stingy with me and my kids (his step kids). We hve one child together. I have complained to him of his lack of involvement in his step kids life but he just ignore. Somehow i have learnt to live with it though i still hurt. Recently he has had some issues at work and might be forced to leave work. He might not get a job anytime soon. This has stressed him but suddenly he has become very involved and genarous to us. Not sure if hz being genuine. I have a feeling hes doing this because he knows soon he will have to depend on me financially. Should i believe this? How do i respond to that treatment?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 January 2018): Accept it for the time being. He may see this as his karma for his bad treatment and past cruelty. It's mostly motivated by guilt and the knowledge he will become financially-dependent on you. Now you can determine his fate.
It's all about family now. Times of crisis is not the time to split the family apart. It's when you do everything you can to keep your heads above water. It's more about the kids; because they are totally dependent on both of you.
He should tirelessly seek employment. Focus on keeping a roof over your heads and food on the table; and the well-being of your family above all else.
Now that he has reaped what he has sown; he is now at your mercy, and will be ever reminded of his past deeds and how he treated you. This is what is known as "Divine Intervention." Things will now reverse.
Providence can change things to favor those who are weak and oppressed, to correct the errors of the wicked.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (29 January 2018):
 Just carry on as you are. A lot depends on whether you have a joint back account or separate ones. Also what arrangements are in place for your mortgage or any loans or credit card debt?
If he loses his job the first thing he must do is cut up any credit cards he has. Uncleared credit-card debt is a killer. It could put you on the street because it snowballs so quickly.
Then help him find another job. While he is unemployed he must take care of the home and prepare meals at least half the week.
I hope he keeps his job and his present spirit of generosity.
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