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writes:Hello Agonies. I'm dealing with a rather tough situation here. My bf, whom i just broke up with, is such a pain in the butt. Okay, i tried sticking it out with him for a while now, throught the cheating, lies, disrespctful ways, etc. Recently, he has been ignoring me a lot. Not wanting to talk to me, spend time with me, etc.doing what a boyfriend suppose to do, he hasn't been doing any of it. So i sent him a text letting him know that i don't think i can continue this relationship with him. As usual, no response. So i went over his house and he was having this attiutude always talking 'bout he's not doing anything and i'm always with the same bs everyday. While i was talking to him, he wasn't listening or paying attention as usual. So i just broke up with him. But now i'm so hurt to the point where i feel like going back over there to him and actually "begging" him to do right and be with me. This isn't the first time this ever happnen. I don't understand why i keep going through this with him and putting up with him. This been going on for 3 years now. I don't know what to do when all i want is him. Should i just let it go or continue to fight for this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2011): I went through exactly the same as you. I was with my ex for almost three years, we were engaged and moved in together in April this year. He had always been disrespectful, selfish and, now I look back on it, cheated on me alot. I broke up with him in early august and it was the hardest thing I have had to do as I really loved him but staying with him was just depressing me. He left without a backwards glance and left all his stuff, later using it as an excuse to come over and try to have sex. Thanks to him I ended up in debt with rent and bills to pay and a broken heart. My parents let me move home again and now, just 4 months later, I am back on my feet again and feeling happier than I have done in a long time. I still think about him but I remind myself of just where I would be if I was still with him. My advice is to let him go, it hurts like hell but trust me you'll feel better in the long run. You need a man who will treat you like a princess not a selfish little boy who can't even be bothered to listen to you. Hope I helped a little, good luck :)
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (29 November 2011):
 I don't understand why you do it either... so let's try to figure it out together.
what is it you GET from this man and this relationship?
are you getting
trust?
affection?
love?
companionship?
sex?
money?
entertainment?
cooking/chores?
are you willing to put up with the abuse from him to get what you get from him?
I have to tell you, breaking up via text was NOT cool. shame on you. Be a grown up and face him.
make a list of pros and cons and figure out which list is longer and has more valid points...
it's hard to end a relationship and risk being alone but sometimes alone by yourself is better than alone with someone.
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