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*lovemycrazykittykat
writes:Here is the problem DC friends. I work closely with a guy who I have become friends with. He flirted with me constantly, got close, supported me through my divorce, and led me to believe that he wanted to be more than friends. I made the move and asked him out. He told me it was best we remain on a professional level. Are you kidding me? We went well beyond that. I was so sure he was into me that way that I made the move. Trust me, I never would have if I was not positive. And when I asked him why he wanted to keep it professional, he told me he started going out with someone else in the same workplace! WTF?Now I am bitter towards him and I am mad at him. I feel like he used me and misled me. In fact, even after being with her officially, he still kept stringing me along and flirting with me and acting like he was not with anyone. Never mentioned her at all.I need to work with him. I am not sure what to do. I can't avoid him. It is a very awkward situation because I am cool towards him and no longer feel a need to be friends because of the way he treated me. He is not trustworthy nor did he ever behave like a friend, even though he tells me I am his friend.Am I right feeling this way? I don't think I am over reacting, am I? I just think he acted like a real slimeball.What would you guys do in my position? I am really doing my best to keep it professional but it isn't easy after all that has happened.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): If a guy sees you as just his FRIEND, he will NOT flirt with you constantly, he will talk about his girlfriend OPENLY around you, he will not give you MIXED messages. He will NOT lead you on.
This guy was a pig and a loser for what he did. THIS is NOT the behaviour of a FRIEND.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): He does not sound unlike a lot of guys. He wants to add you to his list of available women. He wants to keep you there as an option...Just in case. Do you want to be somebody's just in case, back up plan?If he liked you enough, you would be the girlfriend right now. Not someone else. Unless she's pretty good in bed and he isn't thinking with the right head...lol Don't keep yourself hanging on. Only you do this to yourself. Cut the strings. He cannot use you as a puppet any longer if you choose to get yourself out of the situation.Sorry, i know you don't want to hear this but he is a snake. cake and eat it too is a horrible problem for lots of people, men and women included!If he REALLY liked you, I think you need to distance yourself and see if he comes looking for you. If not, you know that all along he was just a game player.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): One word for you doll: PLAYER.
It is best you find another job if you can.
I give him credit. He is good. But you can be better. Remove yourself from his life.
He will do this to his official girl sometime down the road, just like he did it to you.
Do you really want to be with someone like this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2012): Did he ever ask you on a date? Did he ever promise you anything? Sounds like you two are FRIENDS. When a guy likes you, he makes the moves. That's how you know!
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