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writes:i got into a fight with my gf a real fight its her fault though but i think i hurt her bad. I started questioning her about this guy she been hanging out with from her wrk and i started reading her email from him out loud he was talking about how much he loves her and stuff.but this guy is like 15 yrs older then her and hes got kids and not even in good shape,well while im reading she throws the computer on the floor i was pissed and it broke i called her a bitch well she slap me with a wire and we started fighting,i threw her on the ground and i was gonna let her go but she grabb my chain and wouldnt let go i told her to let go cause she was starting to choke me i said im done but she wouldnt let go so i just punched her real good.Now before you think im the bad guy my girl is in good shape she wrks at a gym and she box,I feel bad cuse i hit her hard and she didnt move she was just breathing wierd, she had tears in her eyes ,then i leftwell i came back two days later i was gonna break up with her and move out the apartement, when i went in i found her in bed wearing the same clothes, i just told her im getting my stuff and leaving, she didnt say anything i told her shes the one who just threw away 3 yrs not me so dont even try to make me feel like the bad guy.I was really just trying to get a reaction out of her i was feeling bad about it though, ok so i just stood over the bed looking at her her color was strange, she just said she didnt feel good her breathing was bad so i told her i would take her to the doctor she dint want to go but i made her she asked me what she should tell them i told her what to tell them what ever she wanted,i waited for her in the hospital turned out she had a broken ribs i dont kno what she told the doctor i didnt ask. i took her home,, now the thing is since then shes completly diffrent person she doesnt talk she will stay in one place staring at the wall or out the window sometimes just her hands she stopped going to school or going out at all i was gonna break up with her not because i want to but cause i didnt think she would want to be togather after the fight.Finnally i just told her shes gotta start going to school and wrk if its not to late i told her i was srry but i did warn her.well basically thats where things are left i did tell her i love her even though shes crazy, and the truth is i dont kno what i would do with out this girl i love how can i get things back to normal Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): Sounds like you are having a tough time. I am not judging what happened here but for future, remember, there are NO excuses for hitting a girl. If she's hurting you, you restrain her or get out of the space. Never hit her. Even if she boxes or does anything, you are stronger - as you saw. At the moment, she must be in shock for being hit. You seem to have had problems anyway with her... If you both are in a relationship, why is she seeing another man? Why are you reading her emails? Is the guy in love with her without her reciprocating? Was there a future to your relationship apart from this fight?She sounds violent too... Have you tried calling some friends for taking care of her? If not, you take of her. Things are not normal right now... she is badly hurt, physically and she will need help with tons of things. If you can handle that stick around or hand her over to next of kin and forget about her. If you do hang around, as a friend, for now just take care of her. And when things are better you can talk about your relationship again and restore whatever 'normal' is for you. But promise yourself, not anyone else, that you will never, ever hit any girl, ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 January 2010): You cant get things back to normal. And its moronic of you to think you can. Remove yourself from her as you are deranged, dangerous and a risk to her safety. How could you, not only hit a girl. And hard! But then leave her alone knowing shes on the floor and not breathing properly. Be glad you didnt kill her or you would be facing life behind bars now. Dont worry about her going to work. Just pack up your belongings and leave. And if theres one iota of common decency about you, which i seriously doubt, you will explain what happened to one of her family members or a friend, so they can keep an eye on her and make sure shes ok. You were wrong to punch her, even if she was holding your chin. Theres no excuse for punching a girl. Shame on you. I hope she reports you to the police and you recieve justice for your dispicable behaviour. Not wasting another thought on you
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