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*awaii08
writes:So I'm meeting this guy next week and planning to have sex..It's my first time but I think I'm ready.. I'm turning 18 so there's no problem..The question is does it really hurt on first time? Reply to this Question
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reader, aunty_rach  +, writes (29 December 2008):
oh please! first time sex for girls hurts because of the hymen being broken and the vaginal opening being stretched. it has nothing to do with whether the guy has a big penis or small one!!!!!!!!! what a stupid thing to say. typical boy!
so yes it will hurt her. but then that's just part of first time sex, it;s uncomfortable, horrible,not enjoyable at all and is something most girls try and forget
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): i'm a guy, i've had sex with two virgins..both times it's been agonizing for them..sorry to break it to you!..
it could just be a case of me having a huge langer though...
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Dear Poster
My sincere apologies. Most of the same principles for a first time will apply; such as: relax, take precaution to have enough time and privacy, plan it carefully and make it a memorable moment.
As for the pain, well, lots of people do experience pain initially with anal sex; I suggest you both be patient and take it slow and easy; have lubricants handy; and oh, don't forget the condoms.
If you only intend oral sex, well that should be painless.
Once again, my apologies.
Best wishes and lots of SMILES to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): noooooooo i saw your earlyer question about this guy.please you shouldnt have sex with someone you dont know and have never met before. meet him in a public place and please wait untill you know him well enough before you have sex with him!!! im a girl but i can tell you that yes that type of sex does hurt and you could be very sore after it! all i can say is if ur not going to take my advice and wait,do use a lubricent and lots of it!!
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (29 December 2008):
 NOT Everytime... !!
If you are uncut then it might just hurt much more than otherwise.. Rest it depends upon how tight the Girl is.. !! But if she is well lubricated then there must be no pain.. !!
Just make sure there is a lot of foreplay.. !!
G'day
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): Ah another guy, nah I don't think it's hurt, I mean unless his arse is really small! But then how would he poop? Lol =D
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008): You're a guy... so you're doing it with a girl or another guy? I know sometimes if a guy has sex with a girl on HER first time or if she's just particularly tense it can hurt because it's a tight hole to get into! But generally for guys there is no pain, you lucky bastards!!! =]
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reader, kawaii08 +, writes (29 December 2008):
kawaii08 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSorry but I'm a guy too..
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2008):
Dear Poster
A thin membrane, the hymen guards the entrance of the vagina,(it allows the escape of mentstrual fluid); the thickness and stifness varies from woman to woman; often it is ruptured by activities such as gymnastics, horseriding, cycling or even the use of tampons. However, when in tact, it can be a little painfull during first penetration.
I do suggest you take it easy, have a lubricant handy. Discuss this with your boyfriend,have him prepared not to be overkeen and in a hurry.. no rush, the secret is to "go Slow"....if it hurts stop and try again...
I want to urge you to ensure that when you do decide to do this, make it special; a day that you will be able to remember with good and fond memories; there is no second "hymen"!
The first time is something you will always remember; making sure it is special and you are doing it with love as the driving force and not lust or curiosity.
It will help if you the right setting and complete privacy, with no fear of interruptions.
Allow yourselves plenty of time so that your lovemaking can proceed unhurried. With the first time this is very important, as there is a lot of nervousness; make sure your partner is not in a hurry either.
Make sure you use a reliable form of contraception. Bear in mind that AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases can be transmitted or spread the first time intercourse takes place. I suggest the man should wear a condom.
Your partner must know you are a virgin and be very gentle.
He should make sure you are aroused, by caressing and stimulating you before penetration.
Have a lubricant available if needed.
Choose a man on top position; penetration should be gentle and he should not thrust to deep at first.
Try to RELAX and enjoy!
Best wishes and lots of SMILES.
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