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writes:Hi, I am a 47 year old man who has just met a 25 year old man on a sex web site. The problem is I have just admitted to him that I am gay and no one else knows apart from him. He is also gay and a very understanding man. He is a student in another country so I am sure he only uses this web site to earn money. The real problem is that whenever we talk online he asks me for money. I don't have much money and it is always difficult when the subject arises. He says he understands me but he is a lonely student trying to survive his studies. He has made arrangemnts for us to talk together for longer for the same amount of money as if we were talking on this web site, but I worry that when I can't pay for his friendship any more he won't talk to me again. You see after only a few weeks since I met him I have fallen for him. He's such a sweet guy. He does tell me that he cares for me and we are talking about meeting up with each other in the new year. Am I stupid to keep giving him money I don't have? I have no one else to talk to about my sexuality and he makes me feel good.
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reader, elisa_lee  +, writes (31 December 2008):
 I can't believe gay people would hurt and rip each other off like this but you know, it's true. You should never have to pay for friendship. I know it can be hard to talk about this stuff, especially maybe if you have kept it to yourself for so long, but honey, I would talk to you! ugh.. don't give the money. I also am a poor student but would not ever ask a friend for money.. also if it is a sexual thing that's fine, that's one thing - you paying for a service. But to pretend he's going to meet you and try to get you to fall in love with him or something, that is deceitful and immoral. No good will come of it. NEVER give him money again.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (29 December 2008):
Hey, you can pay me to talk to you about your sexuality.
How much are you giving him, I'll do it for 25% less.
The internet is a competitive market. If you are going to get taken advantage of and give your cash to someone who's probably laughing at you for it then at least shop around for the best deal.
Being a student is hard, I have been there and been broke and gone hungry. I didn't chat to middle aged men on the internet for cash though and I still managed to survive.
Good Luck!! xx
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