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writes:First off let me say that I am 15 years old and I got in such a serious relationship at such a young age. I fell in love with this guy and we both thought we were soulmates, we were together for a good 5 months until he broke up with me. I trusted him so much. He said he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me, and he even got me a promise ring, plus we both lost our virginity to each other so I thought that was a HUGE deal, then on our 4 months we got in a huge argument and we were just fighting since then. A month later he broke up with me, at first it was just a break but then I kept on making mistakes and just pushed him away more and more. Now he doesn't want to be with me at all but I don't understand why he won't just talk to me. All I want to know right now is how can I start talking to him again as just friends and not show my feelings right away until the time is right? the story is very long about why we broke up, ask me if you would like to know about it :]
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the response.
yeah I know it is not the best decision getting serious at a young age, I knew there was a high chance of us breaking up.
im just kinda shock it happened so soon.
and this is weird when it comes to the friends part.
all of his other girlfriends he went out with he is all really close friends with them.
and everyone finds it strange that he wont be friends with me.
his best friend tiffany who is also my friend said that hes just probably really mad right now, just give him his space and im pretty sure he will start talking to you again.
and when he first broke up with me, we actually were still talking to each other.
he was fine with just being friends with me, but I wasnt.
see at school after he broke up with me over the weekends I was just crying and I would flip out everytime I saw him with anyone girl (bad mistake)
and he would try to talk to me but I would always end up yelling at him cause I was so upset.
and he confused me cuz sometimes he slipped calling me baby and babe still (guess he was getting out of the habit)
but the biggest mistake I made of all was lying to everyone 3 days after the break up.
I went around the school saying I was over him and I end up getting a new boyfriend but it only lasted a day cuz I still had feelings for my ex. but then his friend blake came up to me and was like you shouldnt have done that cuz he was gonna ask you back out. and ever since my ex heard me say all of that he hasnt talk to me since and he said its permantly over.
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reader, love-him  +, writes (12 June 2007):
 Hia babe sure id like to know why you broke up.. yea i think the reason he doesnt want to talk to you is because he has maybe gotten over you and moved on.. it can be quite hard to continue a friendship wiv an ex.. mail me chick, hope i helped x x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2007): Hi, the reason he won't talk to you is he does not want to be friends with you, he wants to move on from your relationship, which you would be best to do as well.
Fifteen is too young to be promising a future together, you have your whole lives ahead of you, you need to date other boys, you need to finish school, go to college get a degree so that you can support yourself without depending on a man to do it....because you really cannot depend on a relationship lasting "forever", it would be nice if it did, and many do, but there are never any guarantees in love.
I know you think you would feel better just if you could talk to him and be friends, but you are not being honest with yourself, you have grown dependent on this relationship and you are not wanting to let it go, but you have to do so, as it has run it's course. It may be that in a few years you will find each other again, but I can guarantee you one thing, you will most definately be in love again only with someone else.
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