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writes:I'm 33 and I just had a baby 4 months ago. I met a guy last november, out of pity, I guess, simply because his posting stated that his wife engaged to another man and he's dealing with ptsd and disappeared for a month and came back found she's with another man. I was not expecting anything but just chat. We met first time, and then he hit on me. I wasn't in any interest having a relationship due to the fact I work way too much and I don't have time to commited to one yet, as I wished. As we got talking, it didn't fazed him one bit when I said I want marriage and children. I'm very good at paying attention to details, even at boredom. He told me he's currently single, as he separate, filing for divorced, and everything else, except one measly thing he didn't mentioned. Things was going so well, until he told me, he has special girl waiting for him. Wait, what am I?? I got so upset he used me and I told him to go. It all makes senses when I put two and two together. It turned out he cheated his exwife is reasons why she's engaged to another man. I didn't know it til I was pregnant. No, I'm not a baby proacher or trapper, whatever you call it. I told him I was pregnant. All the suddenly I'm being called whore, slut, scam, etc, told me I screwed around and baby isn't his, according to BOTH of them. There isn't anyone but him. And she shouldn't get involved, period. I'm thinking, force him take paternity and file child support or removed him entirely from my child's life, or leave it alone as it all disappear itself? I don't want anything to do with him, as he's full of rages, denials, and bitters. He never want to even acknowledge his child, then threatening with custody. I fully thought men be thrilled have a visitation rights with their children. Why is he trying destroy a baby?? I'm not trying prevent him from seeing his child, but seeing as situations becoming, is more and more frightening and safety for my baby.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Firstly, I would say well done for realising he's a prick and from what you've said I think it's a good idea this guy is not in your child's life. I would force him to take the paternity test and then file for child support to prove a point to the both of them, as what they have said is completley uncalled for. Just because he would have to support you, does not mean he has to see the child. Good luck with everything, I think so far you seem to be coping quite well. Hope everything turns out alright in the end.
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