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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I need your help! I'm finally going on my first date this week. And i'm really scared. Scared of being really shy and have nothing to say. And what if he thinks i'm boring? :O We've already talked once in real life(for like 1 min, that's how we met) but the rest of the time was on internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2010): It's OK to be nervous! I get scared when I go out with a girl. I'd never judge a girl because she was nervous. it's even kind of cute. Just be yourself. Clearly he likes what he's seen so far, so just try and have fun and enjoy yourself. Try and get to know the guy by asking him questions, and share some things that you think might interest him that aren't uncomfortably personal. It's just a first date, so no need to do anything uncomfortable or risky -- just get to know each other. Have fun!
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reader, Who +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Relax.
The date is either going to go well or it is not, and everyone has a few dates that don’t go well when they first start. And everyone has a few great dates.
“…what if he thinks i'm boring?”
So what? That is about the worst that can happen, and all it will do is give you a funny story to tell later.
“Scared of being really shy and have nothing to say.”
Think back to you internet conversations and think of a few opening lines on one of those topics. And think of a few openings about what is planned for the date. Like “I haven’t been to this restaurant bfore, have you?” Or “I liked the last movie so-and-so was in, did you?”
Don’t try to script the whole conversation, just have a few line ready designed to get him to make a response, and let the conversation flow from there.
Good luck and hope this helps.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Allow me to answer this...You have several options here. You can either just be yourself, or you can pretend to be something you're not, or you can have a beer to calm yourself down before it, or you can cancel the date.
If you choose to be yourself, you will find out where you stand with him. So that might be the safest option.
Sounds like you need to watch a few funny movies or TV shows to make you laugh. Laughter can be good for you.
I sincerely hope it goes well.
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