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female
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26-29,
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writes:This is quite a long story, but basicly, I have never had a boyfriend and really want one. There is this boy I like but he's really popular but I'm just a nobody. Plus I am really short so we might look a bit awkward together. I would talk to him but he's always messing with his mates and I wouldn't know what to say anyway, partly because I never had to do this before. I'm worried he'll say no if I ask him out and then I will just look stupid. I know it happens to lots of people, but when it's your first crush and they reject you it will really upset me and I'll lack confidence in asking other people out. I have no idea what to do and it's driving me mad. This problem might seem just tiny but it's been frustrating me for about a year now ... That's how clueless I am! Please help me because I will really apreciate it and use your advice to the best of my ability and that's a promise.
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reader, camping-gal +, writes (18 January 2011):
I know exactly how you feel.
I'm also a teenager
I know it's scary, but you just HAVE to remind yourself that if you do ask him out:
a) if he doesn't like you, it honestly is absolutely no big deal at all. he's one guy in a planet full of 3 billion males. highschool makes the guy selection look so small that you forget about the entire rest of the world!
b) maybe if nothing has happened between you guys so far then you two just aren't compatible, in which case also no big deal. start looking around for other guys, perhaps one that you never expected you'd like because you never talked to him before.
Overall, I would say that you shouldn't just ask him out. start to talk to him first (DEFINITELY when he's alone though - guys are jerks in front of friends) to see if you actually do like him.
Sure he seems sweet or has great hair but you can't know you're meant to be if you've never even held a 5 minute conversation with him.
You have to be friends before dating, and if he's just not that into you or you turn out not to like his actual personality then don't worry, you will not die alone or a virgin lol (I used to have that fear all the time)
It happens at a differnet time for everybody, and you're still only 13-15. Just start building up your confidence around guys and make friends first, forget possible humiliation and worry - your time will come!
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