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writes:Hey!This is my first article, to be honest its more to document my thoughts than anything else... But hey hope you like it!!So I got thinking...About many different things men, love, life, sex, jobs. But all them have roots with war of women and men so that exactly what i decided to write about..Men, always come to mind. And into days world the division between us keeps getting smaller and smaller. Men now wear mosturiser, cook and clean. While women have jobs and drive cars and and manage to be upstanding citizens of the community without as husband. So are we really so different or do we yearn for love alike.with machonism and feminist views clouding this matter, its hard to say.Many people would deny this all though are Most basic purpose tell us overwise e.g. reproduction it clearly takes two, one of each sex.. ;)Really the only differences are physical the pshycological thoughts are all subject to enviroment.. e.g. parents views.My ex boyfriend lets call him tim. Had a very tradtional view on the matter, things were going great we had moved in Together we had the whole package of Long term relationshipsJoint bank account, dog, sunday lunch with each others parents, it was perfect untill one night coudled up on the sofa, we started talking about children and marriage. "His words followed well when we have them you will haved to quit your job." This echoed in my head for the next 6 months untill it got to the point where i thought i love my job and im not going to give it up to be a boring frumpy stay at home mum, why would should i ? why cant he ?I eventually ended the relationship with the classic line its not you its me, when if im honest to this day blame our different views.Life is for living, do as you feel would be my idea why bother trying to impose your thoughts on someone else?My ansewer to this would be adaption, adapt your views expand upon them cos they all change in time anyway. Its like saying the earths flat, you know its now false. You wouldnt keep saying it just cos thats what you orginally thought.In marriage your singleton views fade. Secretly we all have voices telling us that we are in denial, That those views are still true. Still we chose to do nothing about them this is because they counteract with your lifestyle now. So you chose not to impose on them, even if you do still believe which is highly unlikely. More through conviniance than anything else.I may be rambling on now but the idea i'm trying to get to is Our ideas on men and women are the only thing from restricting us from understanjding them, for example if your girlfriends crying dont divert it by buying her chocolates or flowers, ask her whats wrong !!You never know you might be able to help. or at least get a idea of whats going on in her head. Accepting that we are all different, plays a key part to. Things that seem unimportant to you may be to them.There is a fine line however The quite best to describe this would be "we are all different and that what makes us the same!"Remember we are alike and every human has different interest views and personalities even if we dont agree we should accept them.My conclusion being We are alike just not the same. Learn from each other. accept, but not agree. HmmmHope this inspires you or at least interests you I would love to hear your ideas for my next article or views on this one! Even if you thought it was rubbish!Email me @ this site(Mod Note: private emails not allowed, sorry Jazzy)xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2008): Great food for thought hunny, we are all different and thats not just men and women, Us as a whole, All men are not the same and all women are not the same... We all have different feelings different desires the things we want for others in life that maybe we couldnt have, Life shouldnt be judgmentle it should be acceptance of those differences and understanding them... THANKYOU WITH LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 April 2008): Certainly gave me something to think about! :]
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