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writes:This past weekend I spent more time with my ex boyfriend. At one point I became upset and told him that I thought that we shouldn't be friends anymore and he responded with you don't mean that. He became nervous at the fact that I was thinking that and quickly changed my mind. The next day, I brought it up again and he responded the same way. I told him I don't know what's harder, staying friends with you or not speaking to you anymore, and he responded that I think it would be harder not being friends anymore. I need some incite on this situration that I'm now in.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2006): How many people remain friends when they've been out with someone? Not many.
mwest - why are you being friends with this guy when you don't want to be? Put yourself first. If you find it uncomfortable, tell him. Don't let him talk you in to any thing. I think you will probably be happier once hes out of your life. Out of sight, out of mind.
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (5 September 2006):
 I have to agree with Lostandalone.
It's hard to be "just friends" when one party still has a stronger emotional connection. I think a clean break is best for you. You can meet up as friends some day down the road if circumstances allow. But for now, I think a total separation is in order. . . for your own sanity.
Good luck!
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reader, shania  +, writes (5 September 2006):
 Did you become upset because you really wanted to be more then friends but your ex didn't?..Who ended it 1st? I get the impression that he finished with you but said that you two could still remain friends,but you are finding it difficult?...If thats the case then i suggest you end all links with him because if it is upsetting you then a clean break would be preferable.Of course it will be hard but really,your no better off,are you?
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reader, Lostandalone +, writes (5 September 2006):
 I don't know if I agree with helpful girl on this one. I think it is much harder to be your ex's friend when you have feelings for them and obviously you have feelings. You always want more than just a regular friend and it will bother the hell out of you to hear about a new girlfriend or a new love interest. I think it is possible to be friends but after some time has passed. You will have to tell him this. Its not that you don't want to be his friend but you just need some time to get over him and then you can be friends with him. It will be hard at first but in the long run you will be glad that you did. Good Luck.
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