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writes:Hi there, just feeling a little wobbly today so I thought I'd do a post!I'm almost finished with my first term of Uni, and I've found it really difficult to settle. I have fantastic friends at home, and I just feel a bit lonely here. I thought I was doing ok, as I have people to hang out with, and chill with, but I just feel like I don't really click with anyone here. My friends from home have all gone to different places and seem to have settled really well, and its making me worry that there's something wrong with me. I've always been fussy about who I get close to, and I do this thing where I let people in a certain amount and then don't want to see them anymore. I don't know how to stop it, its really getting in the way of me getting to know people.People are already getting houses together, and I have no idea who I'd want to live with as I feel like I'm floating between people.I know this all sounds very petty, but I am feeling a bit down about it. Any suggestions on perking me up would be great!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): This may sound like what every one always says, but trust me it's natural! In the first term there are sooo many new people, new experienes, new places so people haven't had a time to form really solid meaningful freindships yet-they're still in the testing phase, testing what the other people are like, testing who they like, what kind of person that want to be etc. It's hard because it means you can't really get particularly close with anyone and have a deeper friendship but all you can do is persevere. I'm in my final yr now and almost nobody hangs out with the people they hung out with in the first term, as obviously by now the testing phase is over, they've figured out everyone's personalities out a little better and thus can form a closer circle of friends that right for them. Also everyone always SEEMS like they've got it all worked out already but believe me everyone is feeling much like you, they just can't admit it. Just give it time
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2013): Don't worry I've been through it, anyways in first term first year or even in general the people you hang out with in first year aren't the ones you end up with x
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