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writes:At school last week I was in my favorite class wich was history. I thought that it was going to be a regular fun-filled day because usually thats the class that all of my friends are in. In my group of friends there is one boy (besides me} and two girls. I always thought that they were the sweetest things that God put in the planet. Until one day when I started really likeing one more then a friend. I'm not really the type of person that just ggoes and busts down the doors and ask them so I waited. For a while everything was going my way, until it happened. I thought it was oing to be a great day as usual, when me and my buddy were joking around, we were making a joke that she was bi-sexual. We was all laughing because it was funny. Until she said that it was the truth. She told us how shw was really bi-sexual and that she really had a girlfriend. At first I thought she was joking and me and my friend kidded with her. But she was so serious. Then I saw her kissing a girl in the hallway and they were holding hands between classes. I just couldn't believe it. It ruined everything; I was deppresed for the next two weeks. Then after I was finally over that and decided to move on, I started to like the other girl. It sorta happened by elimination. Then me and my buddy was joking about her getting around (if you know what I mean.) Then my friend asked her if she had ever done anything like that and she said yes. Come to find out after talking about it she has had sex about six times with about five different guys. I always like to go out with virgins, but thats beggining to be a hard quality to find. This hurt just as bad as when I found out that my other friend that I like was bi-sexual. I need to know whether to pursue this friendship, or just take my regular budy and go somewhere else because thats what he wanted to do. I don't know whether it would be helthy to stay. I really don't want to hurt their feelings. And I don't like to go out with a girl while she has a girlfrieng, or one thats not a virgin as you already now. Any help was be tremendously appreciated. I know how the augony aunts and uncles help people with all of their problems with great answers.
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reader, LoveexD +, writes (13 December 2010):
i say go for the one that said she had it 6 times.
If anything, Shes experienced and will blow your mind(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): (I assume you are also a virgin or else you don't have my support anymore.)
I say hold out for what you want at least for a while longer. Virgins are rare now but they don't REALLY get rare until you hit 22-25 range.
You also need to realize that non-virgins will always make a point of trying to talk you out of wanting one. Most of them will get indignant and critical of you when they can't. They usually won't accept you for your choice even though you can accept them for theirs.
Stand up for yourself. If people say you are judging them for wanting a virgin, then ask them why they have "judged" people themselves. By their logic there is no such thing as rejecting someone for a romantic date without judging them.
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reader, Illithid +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Were you only their friend so you could try to date them later, or were you actually friends. If you were friends, then act like one and keep being friends and just accept them for who they are. Some girls are virgins and will be so their entire lives. Some girls have sex with other men than just you. Some girls even like other girls. Some have different beliefs, religions, racial heritages, senses of humor, etc and that's not something wrong with them, that's life. It doesn't sound like you're having trouble finding a virgin to date as rather you're finding out that every girl in the world isn't exactly what you want her to be. I hate to say it man, but that's life. Either you have to accept that women have their own lives and their own desires and do things without your permission, or you're going to be very lonely for a very long time.
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reader, SmilySmily  +, writes (12 December 2010):
Im sorry boy. but I don't really get what you're trying to say? Are you a virgin yourself? Why are you looking for a virgin girl to go out? Why can't you like someone as just the way she is and enjoy the relationship??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2010): these r ur friends man! idk exactly how od u r, but im guessing hischool age. im a freshman. im a guy. this is easy man. just cuz they're bi or not as innocent as u first thot, doesnt mean te aent who u once thot they were.they're still the people u share inside jokes with, still the onnes u joke around and laugh with. nobodies forcing u to love them romantically, but u r obligated thru ur friendship so far to continue lovig them as a friend the way they love u. best of luck man. --joerns
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