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writes:Hello everyone,My fiance and I have a great relationship, but there is something troubling me in the sex department. We have sex fairly often and it is very good, passionate, etc. The strange thing is that he has a hard time reaching orgasm a lot of the time. Not every time, but frequently enough that it makes me worry. It is nearly impossible for him if I am on top, so we stick to missionary most of the time, as it is pretty much the only position that does it for him. Even so, he still usually has to go SUPER hard and fast to finish, which can be a little too rough for me. He tells me that I am attractive, but I worry that it may be my appearance that is hindering his pleasure. I would like to think this is not the case,and I have asked him and he assures me that is not the cause, but I'm not sure. He used to be an avid porn user (not really sure of his current use, but he says it's a lot less), so maybe he is desensitized? I'm just worried and would like some advice on how to make orgasm easier for him. Has anyone experienced this before? Thank you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 November 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both :) We had a good talk about it, and he says he is still using porn (only when we haven't had sex for awhile), and that might be part of the problem. Hopefully we can achieve a good balance and he can have a more satisfying experience with real sex.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 November 2013):
 It's NOT you... that's the first thing you MUST accept... it's not a statement of how much he loves you or how attractive you are in any way shape or form.
I think he's young and probably used to a firm grip of his hand....
it's not happening ALL the time so when it does happen I suggest you not make a big deal about it.
I don't think it's the porn itself that's the issue but rather the masturbation that goes along with it....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 November 2013):
 My guess is he has not cut back on his porn use nearly as much as he has said. This website has a lot more information than I can type here:
http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
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