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writes:please help my fiance has ended our relationship after 5 years and i dont know what to do. im so in love with him and i miss him so much. ive tried to limit contact but we have a child together so its really hard as he wants to speak to him everyday.he is a brilliant daddy and he loves our child very much. if he calls round and im upset he hugs and kisses me and whenever he is near me he is turned on as he always was. i dont get it. its giving me mixed messages. ive asked him to give us another chance but he said he doesn't love me anymore and that he hasn't for the past 12 months. now i feel we've been living a complete lie. i just dont know where to go from here.
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reader, GeeGee255  +, writes (15 March 2011):
 Your very welcome, dear lady!
I think your are going to be better than okay, real soon. You're going to be great!
The best revenge is always success.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmany thanks for your reply. i know your right and i need to let go, it is difficult though when i love him so much. i will take your advice and live one day at a time and most of all i will do it for my child. thankyou for taking the time to answer me. best wishes
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reader, GeeGee255 +, writes (14 March 2011):
You need to find the strength to go on and rebuild your life without him. If you can't do it for yourself, do it for your child who needs you. Try your best not to think about your fiance, or try to make sense out of why he left you like he did, or why he still hugs you, it serves no purpose and will only keep you trapped in this stage of grief.
You need to focus on just getting through the day, one day at a time. Do whatever you have to do, to keep putting one foot in front of the other. Imagine each step you take moves you farther away from the pain and closer to a new, and maybe even better, life for you and your child.
In my experience it is better to live like you never expect him to come back... If he does one day well, you can deal with that if and when it happens. Depending on how you still feel about him. But in the mean time don't allow your thoughts to go there. It will only prolong the pain and hold you back from healing.
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