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writes: My best female friend is batting eyes for my guy...and I am paranoid! Especially when they are in the same room together. Sometimes being paranoid really gets to me, and I start crying when I'm alone. Oh, and my bf is not much help ether because he is always joking about how he is going to take off with Kristy somewhere and leave me at home. Plus when my bff started complaining on how nobody cares for her, my bf tells her that he cares for her, just to be nice, which makes my bff think that maybe he has a little thing for her. Nowadays when all 3 of us go out she gets really dressed up, laughs at every word he says, and treats me like I'm stupig in front of him! I don't want to break up my relationship with my bff because we've been friends since Junior year (I'm a senior now) and we have a good time with each other all the time...when we are away from my bf. Yes, I have talked to my bff about it and she says that she does have a crush on him, but she will keep her distance, and when I told my bf he said that he didn't even realize that he was flirting wth her, and that he was sorry. I want to hear from people if this is a good thing or not, because I dunno what to do. PS: on the side note, my bff and my bf have so much in common, that they often leave me out of conversations when we are all together...In the back of my mind I sorta think that maybe they are meant to be with each other. I Love my bf too much to let that happen!
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reader, Angelicc  +, writes (5 March 2006):
 your bff isnt a very good one she doesnt seem to respect how you feel about the situation. your bf maybe trying to do a good thing for your friend surely thro she has other friends she can spent time with. do you feel that your relationship with your bf is worth working at because if you dont i think you should leave him. he sounds like a nice guy and is looking out for your friend but if he truely understood how you felt then you still wouldnt be feeling that way. you to tell your bf that you want to spend time just on a one and one with him. that its great he's looking out for your friend but he's in a relationship with you and not her. you also need to tell your friend that three is crowd and that she needs to back off.
the fact that they have some much in common doesnt make them perfect each other. infact it would make them good friends but not so great in a relationship its better not to be too similar in a relationship as it gets boring.
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reader, mystify +, writes (5 March 2006):
 sorry i meant "damaging your relationship for her benefit"
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reader, mystify +, writes (5 March 2006):
sometimes you just have to let friends go , i have left mant groups of friend and best friends behind when i realise they are not good for me any more , this girl is not good for you, she dosent care about you , she just cares about stealing all your boyfriends attention from you and damaging your relationship for your benefit. in recent years i let a friend go because of something similar to this , she always flirted with every guy i got together with , not because she wanted them , just because she wanted all the attention and to feel more attractive than me, then when that didnt work she would plant seeds of doubt in thier minds against me and therefore destroy the relationship, i havent let her near my boyfriend , friends like her and like your friend are pure poison and id avoid her at all costs!
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reader, NIKKI. +, writes (4 March 2006):
IN MY OPINION...I DO NOT THINK THIS GIRL IS A VERY GOOD FRIEND ...SHE IS TRESPASSING ON YOUR PROPERTY!!! DO NOT TRUST HER. IF YOU HAVE THE GUTS, SIT THEM BOTH DOWN & TELL THEM HOW YOU FEEL. YOU SHOULD BE ABLE TO TELL HOW THEY FEEL ABOUT EACHOTHER BY THIER REACTION TO THE CONVERSATION.
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