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writes:i am so confused and i just want to stop feeling so confused :( i have a bit of a dilemma :( theres this teacher that i havent spoken to in a year properly. We used to have a great realationship but it got torn apart because he didnt want to have anything to do with me because i was trouble apparently. But ive always had this fantasy to have something with him but i am leaving the school in 2 weeks and i am 17 in august and i was wondering if anyone knows if it is allowed to try and persue my feelings and what the conscequences are to me for doing so? like him telling people i dont know. please help :( this goes round my head all the time because im craving and i want it and it hasnt gone away after a year its a ridicusly long story and it wouldnt fit in this box but im struggling so much i need help. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2009): Similar story with me although he didn't think me as trouble, quite the opposite :P
But I don't speak to him much, and I really wanted (and still want) to tell him before I leave school. I think it's all built up in my head 'cause he's a generally flirty man (I get jealous when he talks to the female teachers :P). I used to think he smiled and looked at me during class but it was probabaly him just being a somewhat 'giggly flirty school girl' (fliting with everything that moves :P)
I remember he once gave a project back after marking, I had got a high mark and he smiled at me in that "You should be very proud" manner.
My face lit up and I smiled at him, but I feel that I build things up in my head so much, he's kept his distance since he stopped teaching me, and tbh he's ignoring me even if I smile. So I think he was just a small crush that I built up. He either wants to keep his distance for a certain reason (may have guessed how I feel) or he just doesn't see me like that
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2009): oh hon....please don't pursue your teacher. There's an unwritten policy that teachers and students don't mess around with each other. And when they do... and get caught, usually the teacher goes to jail.You have a crush on your teacher, I understand. But there's great guys your age to go and have fun with. It sounds like your crush turned fantasy is taking over your life.I used to like a guy (though my own age) the way you like your teacher. Not as much as you did though. We were friends with a hot-and-cold relationship.Yet it never led to nothing. And it was very disappointing and hurtful with how we completely stopped being friends because of me confronting him and him running for cover. But it was all for the best.Also, it seems this teacher has dropped contact from you by the way you wrote your post. If this is truly the case, there's no point of pursuing him. Tough love I know, but what's the point of chasing a person that doesn't want to be chased?It will take you awhile, but time truly heals. I like a great guy now that likes me for who I am. It took me 7 months to get over Tre`, but it's all paid off now.I hope and pray that the best happens to you in this situation.
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