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writes:My boss is helping me to leave my job with dignity as it has not been working out witht he staff I manage. I personally would like the area really shaken up. One member of staff has made my working environment very unpleasant and has been issuing complaints about me despite the fact that I am actually very good at my job and my boss knows that. His Senior Management Team were trying to put me through a pathatic discipinary for which he has stopped if I resign which i know have.He has volunterred to help with interview practice and applications.However, I have noticed that two female members of the SMT look very uncomfortable judging my their body language which in turn makes me feel uncomfortable.I am starting to develop a crush on my boss. I have been picking up on his body language and I am not sure if I am giving off anything. I was horried that I dreamt about him once.The feelings have been in existence a long time prior to this incident and I have noticed the way he looks at me when he saw me around college. He is 8 years older than me.Any advice or words of wisdom welcomed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2010): It sounds like this guy is feeling sympathetic and is taking some pride in "helping" you. Many guys take advantage of others' moments of weakness and vulnerability to make their move. A good relationship is built on being attracted to strengths in people, not weaknesses. You need to keep this in mind at this time and be strong for yourself. He may have a nurturing, paternal nature, and he sees a weak or wounded woman who responds to his help. Your sense of need may be getting his lines crossed, making him think you need something else...like sex. be careful.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (5 June 2010):
 Your boss is encouraging you to resign because he doesn't want the fuss and bother of a disciplinary procedure. He is being very nice to you to make sure you do what he wants. He is hardly fighting to keep you in his office, I think he is probably looking after number one. I think it is time to let your head rule your heart before you lose out on your legal rights. In the middle of a recession jobs don't grow on trees and you have a basic right to a disciplinary meeting with independent advisors. I would try to retract the resignation. If you genuinely feel you are being harassed and bullied by colleagues then it would be an opportunity to put your case forward. If the management then fail to address the problem, they are also failing in their duty of care towards you as an employee. It sounds like their are colluding to sweep you under the carpet and then out of the door. I think you should an organisation called ACAS for advice, and seek legal representation if required.
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