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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:What's the normal time a girl should wait around on a guy?The only problem is... this guy is my best friend of 6 years..I feel like I am losing himIt all started when he admitted he had feelings for me(I had no idea).. then I admitted I felt something for him a few years later (he had no idea for months of confusion plus I finally told him).. now we ignore each other in the bar, there's a massive tension in our friendship :(I text him sometimes but his replies are very BLUNT or short and sometimes he never replies at all.. other thing is we kissed each other so many nights out but he says "he's scared to lose me as friend" if we went further. Our friendship is soo messed up because of one night we nearly came close to having sex - it feels like we just fight and things go from weird to normal.. he also is very touchy feely with me and sometimes gets really close even though he says he wants me as a friend? I love him with all my heart - I dont wanna lose him.Any advice on this guy?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2008): Hi,If he told you how he felt about you and you waited all that time to tell him i am not surprised the guy is confused!!He like you does not want anything coming between the friendship you have but i sense their is real sexual chemistry going on there with you two thing is neither one of you are willing to take the bull by the horn and do something about it for fear of ruining a wonderful friendship.He is telling you he wants you just as a friend but then comes all over touchy feely?I think he is slowly trying to see if you feel as he does?Why don't the two of you get together over a meal or a drink just as friends and talk through these issues for you i think it is vital you tell him how you feel now!Only when you discuss these things will you find what the solution is and there is definitely something between you both other than friendship i feel you may well have to take the lead here i don't think you will lose him as a friend being open and honest with him try and stay calm when you talk and don't get sidetracked in anyway say what you feel i always think that is the best policy that way you both know exactly where you stand with each other good luck.Ginalolabridga
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