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writes: My boyfriend owes me lots of money. How can I make him pay? He cheats, is mentally and physically abusive and I know I need to get out.I love him so much so it's so difficult to walk away. I feel trapped by the debts he owes me.Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 November 2005): Even though you love your boyfriend, you shouldn't feel trapped in your relationship. If you think things can work out between you then try and go see a counsellor, to get help for your boyfreind. It seems to me that he has a past not a good upbringing, as of why he is abusive, my advice to you is either leave or get help.
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reader, Rebecca Batchelor +, writes (24 March 2005):
 You feel trapped by the debts he owes you and/or trapped in the relationship with an abusive man whom you are having great difficulty in walking away from? I think it may be both.He owes you money but your main concern should be your safety and well being. I understand you love him but I think you know that it is highly unlikely that he will change. A snake may shed its skin but it is still a snake, I'm afraid. People only change if they really, honestly want to and are willing to put in loads of effort in which to achieve that transformation. It seems unlikely your boy-friend is able to do this.There are organisations that can help women in your situation. Woman's Aid is one and you can locate them in the phone book or on the internet. They are experienced in understanding the difficulty women have in escaping abusive relationships and they can assist you in making a decision as to what you want to do which can include thinking about the money he owes you.I do hope this helps you. I wish you all the best.
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