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writes:hi guys. this is for the ladies mostly, but guys are welcome to chip in too! any advice much appreciated.my boyfriend and i are very much in love. about 4 months ago i lost my virginity to him. he wasnt a virgin but he was very gentle and caring about the whole thing. anyway we have been having sex regularly, a couple times a week, since. but i am still getting some pain?the pain of having sex for the first time itself is gone, like the stretching of the vagina and the uncomfortableness. thats fine now.. its just the "poking" !? i dont know how else to put it. when it goes in too deep, it feels like its actually poking me and its a sharp pain. he is about 7.5 inches and very wide too, but like i said its not the stretching thats hurting. is it to do with his length? thing is, he can get it all the way in, and has done before? so why does it hurt sometimes? its literally a sharp painful poke. all the women reading this probably know what i mean?anyway, i was just wondering if anyone knew what this might be, and how i can get more used to it so that we dont have to calm down or slow down or anything from the pain? he is very considerate and so always does stop or whatever if it hurts. but its only the initial pain of the "poke" and then its fine.. just as long as he doesnt go too deep again. is this weird? any advice?thankyou! :)
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reader, Confuzed Teen +, writes (20 May 2010):
I get this also iv been haveing sex for about 5 months now and i still get it in some different positions i dont get it but in some i do the best advise i can give is try different positions and see what is best for you both
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): He's probably hitting your cervix. I'm a guy, so I don't know what the pain is youre feeling, but that's what I've heard hurts when a guy is long (and 7.5 inches is fairly long for many women). I've heard girl on top works best for this...also because you control the amount of insertion. I'm 6 inches and only ever hit a girls cervix once where it hurt her, so take this with a grain of salt.
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reader, KeighleySky +, writes (17 May 2010):
 Try a position where you control how far he does in, e.g you on top. I know exactly how you feel, im constantly being 'poked' by my boyfriend but if we start off slow then by the time hes ready to fully penetrate me im perfectly capable of accomidating him. And as the guys said above FOREPLAY!! Hope every turns your way :) x
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reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (17 May 2010):
 The reason we do foreplay is to prepare the body to have sex. For women, this includes:
Lubrication at the entrance of the vagina.
Contracting the cervix upwards so that the penis won't touch it.
Perhaps you are not getting aroused enough. Do foreplay for longer next time and don't leap straight in.
Also you said he was 7.5" and this is longer than the average (approx. 5") How tall are you? Because if you and/or your vagina is quite short then that could be another factor. In which case don't get him to penetrate so deeply. The nerves are most sensitive on the head of his penis so it shouldn't make sex particularly less enjoyable for him =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): Sounds to me like he is hitting your cervix. If this hasn't always been a problem, chances are your uteris is tilted. I know in my case my uteris moves and you can switch positions to alliviate the pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2010): I'm not a woman but here is my opinion...
First, I'm not sure of the details, but if you guys are going straight to sex sometimes, that may be the problem... What I mean by that is you may not be aroused enough.
When you are properly aroused your vaginal canal will expand a bit, probably enough to accommodate your guy comfortably.
If that's not it then you may simply be a bit *shallow* in that area and he is hitting your cervix.
So if you are not feeling poked all the time I would suggest you try becoming more aroused before full penetration.
Maybe the word of the day here is... Foreplay!! ;p
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