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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I've been feeling super lonely since I finished my masters. This problem is compounded by the fact that two of my close friends have left the country for good plus I find it very hard to meet girls (who are relationship worthy). Other friends have settled into relationships and seem incapable of having friendships outside, on the odd occassions they do venture out all they talk about is mundane stuff like their partners or partners friends (fascinating, I know). The final few friends are obsessed by going to the pubs and clubs and taking drugs and drinking, only to complain that they no money and no jobs because of doing it all the time. Don't get me wrong I value all my friends (many of them there are) but I need ones with similar interests to me - like a passion for music (but I don't play instruments), a fascination with travelling (very few of my friends have any inclination to leave Europe at all, and get excited about more pedestrian destinations where they feel safe), and comedy, film/literature, experimenting and going to new, different places. I hardly ever meet new girls in the places I go. I'm a bit down about my situation, but I know it's a far cry from hopeless and I can bounce back if I find places to root out people like myself. I just don't know where. I'm too old for the youth clubs, and I have no idea where to start. Can anyone help me find remarkable and interesting people who have a lust for life, and seek to live rather than exist (am I asking too much?).
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2008):
It can be quite a shock when you come out of education, I still find it a bit weird since I graduated a couple of years ago.
You definitely sound down about your current life situation, and it sounds like you really need to shake your life up to get out of this rut.
You need to change your own psychology about who you are and what you want, and this will drive you to participate in different things and opens yourself to new types of people in your life.
People in life either think it is the things and people around them that cause them to feel the way they do, or they feel that they are the ones who cause what and who is in their life by the way that they think and act. When you see things in the later way, it is so empowering and problems of having incompatible or no longer relevant friends, or feeling lonely quickly fade away and your life seems to naturally go on a new course.
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