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writes:Hello, lately, I have been feeling really depressed about everything in my life. I am stressed out right now about work and school, and also my boyfriend adds to that stress. Since we have been dating about six months ago, his constant talk of exes and how better they were at things than me (like 'My one ex was so good at sex...which I don't need to know) has really turned me into someone who feels like they can never compare to his past gfs. Also, he is my first real boyfriend so I don't even have a past to compare it to. Anyway, all of my stress has turned into depression, I dont feel like doing anything and I really feel no hope towards anything. I tried talking to my bf but he just thinks I am being silly, when no matter how many times I tell him, he thinks it's no big deal. I am really picking myself apart at what is wrong with me and I just need to know what I should do. Any tips on dealing with stress, depression or the bf are strongly needed.
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reader, sexylinz  +, writes (28 July 2006):
 darlin...get rind oh him. talking to you the way he is, is doing nothing for your self esteem.
you deserver better than him and in the future you will find someone that you deserve. some one you will be able to love and someone who will make u feel loved and wanted.
good luck and let me know how it goes. if u need to talk more you can always email me.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (27 July 2006):
 You need to get rid of this guy . . . and fast! He's dragging you down and nobody should be able to make you feel that bad! I'm sure you're a fantastic girl with so much to offer and, because he's your first boyfriend, you're allowing him to treat you in a way that is out of order! I would usually tell you to talk to him but if my man said the things yours has said, he'd be out the door straight away!!!
You need to concentrate on you for a while. Men like this like to prey on vulnerable women who allow the man to take control and take over every feeling you have about yourself and the world. These are bad men but they can only do this if you allow them to. Get out while you still can!!!
Once you've got rid of that loser, you can start to work on yourself again. You need to get back in touch with who you are and the great things about you which you did know before he tried to take them away from you. Saying the things he's said is inexcusable and there is only one thing to do and I think you know what that is.
As for the stress and depression, you'd be surprised how fast they seem to disappear once you get rid of the root cause of it!!
I really do feel for you, it sounds like he's really trodden you down. I think getting rid of him and learning from this is the best thing to do for you. You're a wonderful person who deserves to be treated with respect and gratitude for the things you do, not compared to others and knocked down all the time. Please get out of this trap before it's too late and learn from this: a man that can make you feel so badly about yourself is not worth your time. You need someone who appreciates and loves you everyday.
Good luck and please contact me again if you need to talk further, I know it can be hard to break free from something like this. There are good men out there and you will find one.
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