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writes:I seem doomed for always having a lonely life. I was brought up in childrens homes and when I did get married after a few years my husband ran off with another woman. I haev ahd boyfriends but no one wanmts commitment these days. I have amde a fool of myself chasing men jsut ebcasue I am desperately lonely. I am just 60 but look younger but no one will want me now will they!!!I have no family and all my friends are married with their own lives.I have tried applying for voluntary work abroad but they want qualifications nursing teachign etc which I havent got-and they csot a lot of money.The singles clubs where I live are all young peoplesometimes I despair-lonelines is a terrible thing-IF I am lucky enough to lvie another 25 years or so what am I goign to do or fill the time that I am able to do things?Please help methanks
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reader, Maria matt  +, writes (3 September 2011):
Hi,Have you found one? Patience . It is never late. Set your mind towards some time-passing activity. Things happen when we don't go desperately searching.Matt
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2011): Hi, I'm 30 soon to be 31 and feel the same. I'm currently out of work looking for a job been months and nothing. I'm living in single bedsit in London and all my friends are getting married or are in amazing careers. I have nothing... My days and nights are spent on my own...I dont own anything and have no money to even pay rent do I'm pretty sure I'll be homeless soon! I too have had hard life always had to fight to get what I want, always been a battle...and like you I've always made a fool of myself with men and fall for the commitment phob f**ed up ones... who ironically all have settled down with the girl after me!!!
I often think about not carrying on...BUT then I think that who knows what can happen in life at any age and have HOPE that life will try as it always does for better or worse it goes up and down...a man I know got married the other day at 84! He had no family etc, she does and now her family has become his...he met her shopping in his supermarket! See you never know ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 July 2011): Ofcourse they will want you - 60s no age !!!
Its not easy for anyone meeting people and the first step is always the hardest isnt it?
I know people who play Bowls, some who dance and you often dont need to take a partner, others who do charity work in local shop or play in darts team
- Pick a Club in your area that really interests you and join it.Start with friendship and a common interest.Get a dog and walk it maybe? Summers best time to get yourself out there.
And dont stress about making a fool of yourself for a man, we all have and probably will again. Its no big deal in the scheme of things
Good luck and keep me posted x
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reader, GoodDog +, writes (31 July 2011):
 Hey - don't be too hard on yourself - 60 is the new 40 (or so I'm told!)
Is there a local dance club or community group you could take part in? I know the Voluntary services near me are always greatful for any help they can receive and these are always a great way to meet and make new friends.
I know quite a few people around your age and older who are active in amatuer theatre - not just acting but also helping with the coffee mornings, costumes and set painting.
I'm sure other Aunts & Uncles will be able to offer more help and suggestions with this.
Please don't feel lonely or down about yourself. I'm sure you are a caring and loving person who has a lot to offer. It's just finding the right thing which works for you.
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