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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I find it hard to be friends with guys without developing an attachment to them, and i feel its unhealthy as i'm jealous of their female friends and girlfriends because of how close they seem to be. perhaps because I fell that I don't have that kind of relationship with anyone. How do you remain friends with someone without letting these feelings get in the way. Recently a female friend of mine has become close to a guy i used to see and its making me feel worthless, when i hear them laughing together i see red. i don't want to feel like this anymore.
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reader, HKR29 +, writes (13 February 2011):
I think what your feeling is insecurity. The women who fancy everyone and are 'less-picky' about their choice of men, I find, are the women who have low-self esteem and usually feel like they aren't worthy of a lot of men. (which comes from them being too-self critical of themselves).I think this could also be the reason to why you are feeling jealous. After all, the feeling of jealousy derives from the feeling that someone is better then you or has something that you want. If you were with one of these men would you really feel like you have what you want? - The grass isn't always greener on the other side!!!Everybody has a 'type' and if your developing feelings towards a lot of different men there is something wrong, especially if it's affecting your friendships. Insecurity is something that effects everyone from time to time, maybe if you try and pinpoint what is making you feel like this and why you feel like a lesser person compared with your friends, then I think your problems will solve themselves. Why not try going out with different people for a while? Or go out by yourself for a cocktail? Try and enjoy your life rather then worrying what other people are doing!The best piece of relationship advice I've ever heard is when you stop looking for a relationship and start having more fun, he will find you!!Hope this helps!
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