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writes: Dear Cupid,I am a man in my early forties. What shall I do? I am told I am still attractive, but my wife has lost interest in me. I feel like a pay cheque!Should I wine and dine her, or buy her flowers everytime I want affection? I'd soon be bankrupt because I like sex!I'm not lazy I help around the house, but she is always tired.Shall I have an affair?Shall I leave?There are children so its complex.You'll tell me to talk to her, but I've tried and failed.Help
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reader, mommyofthree +, writes (8 January 2006):
 I honestly don't think an affair is the solution to any marital problem. If you have tried to talk to her about this and failed maybe you need to try with the help of a marital counselor. I understand that the children make the situation more dificult, but think of what an affair would do to them, it would be far worse on them than if you two decided to seperate and then you started seeing other people. There has to be a reason that she has lost interest and the only way to get her back is to find out the reason. Good luck.
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reader, shania  +, writes (8 January 2006):
 Have you actually sat down with her and asked her what she wants from this marriage? Do you still love her? It sounds like you want to make a go of it but your wife isnt too forth coming.You dont have to wine and dine her every night,maybe she wants affection as well,have you told her that you love her? Do you give her plenty of cuddles and compliment her,little things like that can make the world of difference.Is she feeling depressed over anything? A good long talk is much needed here,the bonus is that you do have children so in most cases it can hold a relationship together because you have got something worth fighting for.An affair wouldnt be the answer,why? because it would only bring much more heartache,you would get the sex and the excitement,but lust soon fades.In the end you have got to decide whether you want this marriage or not and that includes your wife as well.Only you two know whether your relationship has run its course or not. Good luck.
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