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female
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26-29,
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writes:Hey.So there's lots of stuff going on with family. Lots of financial problems. I'm fighting with parents. I have a good relationship with them but now it's all gone,me keep fighting. I'm just hurt all the time because they don't talk to me properly now a days. My mom talks better with my friends than with me. It makes me feel like she doesnt love me or care for me. I don't know what to do. They just don't listen, I used to have an amazing bond with mom but now she just ignores me. I feel like running away from home Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2012): This is completely normal OP, we've all gone through times like this when we were teenagers and most of us have gotten through it without doing something as stupid as running away and we've gotten over it.
OP girls who run away make literally the biggest mistake of their lives when they do and it's an exceptionally vulnerable position to be in, one which ruins their lives, so don't even consider that as an option.
OP you have to fight through this, that's how it works, a person who runs away from their problems is a coward and one who will go through life always running away, never able to properly deal with conflict and their problems just keep growing. Learn to be one of those who doesn't run away from trouble but deals it and sticks with it. Someone with the strength to know things will get better and one who understands that when times are bad and people are having issues you have to be patient with them and supportive.
Your mom does love you and cares for you but she's only human OP. She has major issues to deal with and they may well be getting the better of her.
Just learn to deal with things, if you feel a fight is going to happen or you're getting angry either count to ten or walk away. Your relationship with her is not gone, she just has a lot on her plate at the moment. She's not bulletproof OP, money issues are a massive deal and her head could be a mess right now, you really won't understand what it's like until you're older and the risk of losing everything you have built up over your life becomes a reality. Just cut her some slack and understand your relationship with her has not changed at all, she's just preoccupied with her own problems at the moment.
Ask her to have a sit down and a chat with her. Ask her what you can do to help her through this time, seriously sit her down and don't even mention how you feel, don't mention any of this and just ask her how you can help her through this time that you want to make things easier for her. Then just do those things, perhaps she may ask you to help out around the house more, then do that. Try lightening her burden by helping her OP and she should start to feel better and start to go back to the mom you remember. The best way to stop fights is to do what you can to help. If she's having problems and you're not cleaning your room when she asks or you're always in her face demanding she take you places etc. then of course she's less likely to want to talk to you because you're just going to make her feel worse for fighting with you. Woman up and help out any way you can.
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