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writes:Ive been with my bf for almost 2 years and my family n friends especially mum don't like him at all. For many reasons. But ill only mention 3. One, he showed up to my house drunk early one morning. Knocking at my window so loud that mum heard it, she was nice enough to invite him inside but disappointed to meet him for the first time. Drunk. Two, in the beginning of our relationship he screwed up a bit. Caught him flirting through txt, he kinda showed a bit of interest in my best friend. Which still bothers me a bit now. I know he loves me but i still have trust issues with him. Three, he's unreliable. We both want a future together but even i can't see myself being financially stable with him. Im no gold digger, im a hard worker, i know how to save but everyone falls at some point in life financially and emotionally. We all want someone we can rely on, and i dont feel like that with him.Not everyone's perfect, but everyday i question if he's the one. I know im still young and i have ages to get married (im 22). What i fear most is losing my family if i choose to live a life with him. They basically think he's a dick and i deserve to be with someone better. But i love him a lot.Arrgh so frustrating. Any ideas anyone??
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reader, Anonymous711  +, writes (10 April 2011):
I think you should talk to your mum and tell her how you feel. She won't want to stop you, from loving him. She just cares, i havent heard any good things about him but if there are more good and you would be extremly upset if you broke up then you should carry on. Maybe talk to him, ask him why he is so crazy and unstable (in a nice way) GOod luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): Thanks Cerberus. You're right, if i do end up staying with him it's gona be a tough road. I just hate being the one to end a relationship and worse i hate the whole breaking up process. There's definitly gonna be a lota crying :( but i appreciate the help a lot!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2011): OP we both know your friends and family are right. They can't all be wrong can they? I'm with my girlfriend 5 years now, do you want to know how many times I've questioned if she's the one? Not once.Not everyone's perfect that's true but not everyone is an unreliable idiot that everyone in our lives think is a shit partner for us. When that is the case then continuing on is a really bad idea, not because you'll lose them but because usually they're right.OP you're not going to lose your family to this as long as you don't drag them down with you. You see even you know he's not right for you, everyday you question why you are with him but you ignore that because you love him. All I can say is good luck OP, nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes but this guy has a pattern of complete idiocy and no consideration for his actions at all. You have a long hard road ahead of you.
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