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writes:I have been separate 4 years, haven't been with or kissed another man while separated. My husband and I are finally getting a divorce/My situation is for the past 4 months I have been doing alot of talking on the phone with my business partner who is single and now I want to take it to another level and do not know what to do. We be on the phone for 6 and 7 hours, we know where each other is during any given time. We have been out to dinner and I have cooked for him. I also have a full time he asks about my job how was my day, he asks about my kids which are grown. he is 54 I am 46 y/o. Don't want to get married but would like to go out with him to the movies and functions.But I don't know if he is attracted to me. We have never kissed or talked about a relationship that is personal. We do talk about alot of person things his family my family we laugh alot when we are together. We live in the same city.Should I keep my feelings to myself or approach him that I want more besides a business partnership.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (5 January 2011):
 he's been rubbing your back?! you never told us that, you little minx! :) definitely definitely ask him to that ball, i cant think of a more perfect way to get more intimate than going somewhere like that coz its got romantic connotations but on the other hand is somewhere you can invite him 'just as a friend' coz you are single, and so is he, so since you really wanna go, but don't wanna go on your own.. etc etc
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reader, wife1012 +, writes (5 January 2011):
wife1012 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you both for your advise. I didn't know cooking was a big deal. Besides cooking for him, I have made his favorite dessert. He is coming over Friday or Saturday so we can discuss business. What I have decided to do is add a little fun to the business meeting. I have a Wii system, so we can bowl or play tennis, which will set a different mood. You stated sit closer, I have sat close matter of fact last week when he was at my house he was rubbing my back.
Still a little nervous about bringing up the subject first if he has crossed the line to personal relationship. But I know the subject must come up because we talk so much to each other and I am curious and getting caught up more and more. Plus we are having a Valentines Ball at church and I want him to come with me.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (5 January 2011):
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being a business partner makes it a bit more complicated if things don't work out. but as long as you are mature enough to get over any embarrassment that might arise if you make a move and he doesn't feel the same way that's fine. i think you sound like you'd make a really great couple! if you wanna go the movies or to functions with him, just invite him! it could be just enough to make things more intimate between you. whenever you are going to see him, make your very best effort to look nice, he'll know your doing it for him and it will give him a signal. make yourself physically closer to him, stand closer to him than you would to a regular friend, touch him more, look at him longer stuff like that, body language! read up on it and learn how to make yourself look very welcoming to him, be subtle about it at first to check if he's ok with it, if he's reciprocating, turn it up a bit :) if he is interested he can then ask you for more than business partnership, so everyone's a winner: you get with him without even having to ask and he feels good coz he's done that 'man-thing' where they think they've 'hunted' for us!
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reader, Greyvanman +, writes (5 January 2011):
He is just as interested in you, as you are in him! When you have cooked a meal for someone it brings you closer together than any kiss ever would - although next time you're cooking, sealing the date with a kiss goodnight wouldn't be a bad idea. If you have made it through separation and all the way to finalising your divorce, then you are not jumping into anything on the spur of the moment, so if it feels good to be with your business partner in a social setting then my advice is that you can have a perfect relationship. You already trust one another, have common interests, spend time together, like each other enough to be better than best friends... Just get on with it! X
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