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writes: I am a female an I am falling so in love with this girl I work with! Lately we have started texting an she will always say I love you an An send emojis with hearts when she hugs me I feel like I just melt I feel like it's pretty clear she feels the same way for me but I don't know how to ask her! I don't want to say something an she tells me she don't mean anything by it! What should I do??? I have never asked her if she was gay or anything
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2015): It's a tricky one. And even more so as you work together. Some girls are just over friendly which can in turn make you fall for them. On the other hand, she may be feeling the same as you. I would gradually try and find out more about her rather than going straight in and risking getting the wrong end of the stick and ruining a friendship. Sometimes we don't want to ask as we don't want to hear rejection but sometimes that can be better before you fall deeper. Do youse each other outside of work? Maybe suggest going on a night out or something, then talk about your lives and casually drop in and ask her if she has had a relationship with a girl etc. good luck.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 August 2015):
 Lots of folks say "I love you" as a term of endearment as opposed to a "come on" Assume it's a term of endearment and go from there.
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reader, IanHenryCooper  +, writes (6 August 2015):
 Good advice to tread carefully from the others on here. All I would add is that you might try leaving some lesbian literature - not necessarily porn - open on your desk "by accident" when she comes to see you.
If she is straight, she may well make some kind of joke and move on; if she is of thew sapphic persuasion, SHE will take it from there.....
Harry.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (6 August 2015):
 First off, this is your work place. I'd honestly keep it a bit more professional if I were you.
Secondly, does SHE know you are gay? Or does she just think you are a GREAT female friend that she has bonded with?
If she doesn't know you are gay or that you are interested in her, can you imagine how AWKWARD work will be if she can't handle that news?
Most people are totally OK with gays, but they still get uncomfortable if one hit on them (if they are straight).
So honestly, are you ready to lose her as a friend, have an awkward work environment... all because you "think" you are falling in love with her.
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