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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My best friend is female. We always joke around that one day we will eventually end up together. But lately I've been taking these comments more seriously, and it hurts when she tells me about other guys and her attraction towards them. I want to tell her my feelings and hope to become something more, but as with a lot of people I am way too scared that it will ruin our friendship or make it awkward for us and our other friends.So, my questions are should I tell her how I feel for her? Or should I wait till I might have an actual chance, like after college? And how should I tell her?Thanks so much you all.
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reader, elliebellie  +, writes (31 July 2009):
Hi there. This is the problem with male-female friendships. even though people say we can have non romantic friendships, i think theres always a possibility. as a female, i recognise a possible technique she may be using- mentioning other guys and saying how great they are and how much she likes them. either she has a general interest in these guys and is confiding in you as a good friend or she is trying to make you jealous. when a girl likes a guy, and the guy isnt making a move, then the girl makes the guy jealous enough to make a move. i think this girl may be doing this. but then you dont want to rush into something with the wrong idea. so my suggestion is that you should make another joke about you two ending up together but then become serious and say do you think that will ever happen. if she says no and looks awkward then just laugh it off, but if she too becomes serious and embarrased then there may be something going on with her feelings. the main thing is keeping the friendship going so you dont want to ruin that. see how that situatioon goes and work from there. if you havnt tried out the situation after you leave college and go your separate ways then meet her and tell her how you feel because if youre both in separate colleges then there wont be that awkardness if it doesnt work out. but definelt try the 'situation' out and dont let her slip away as a friend!
good luck i hope this helps
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ellie
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