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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi Aunts, here's the thing. I'm 19 this year and I've known this 29 year old guy from the Internet for about 3 months now and like most hot-blooded teenagers, I succumbed to showing him my body and having cam sex with him. Initially, I did all of it out of curiosity and fun. I know how most of you will probably have judged me already but I have made the decision to do it and I'm prepared to face the consequences.The thing is, I think I've started to be attracted to him and like him more than just 'Internet fuck buddies.' I like how he is matured, stable and most of all, I really enjoy talking to him. I know nothing will ever work out between us because he is seeing someone and I live on a totally different continent, 20+ hours away from him. But I can't help but feel withdrawal if I don't talk to him for even a couple of days. I know how stupid this sounds but I actually felt giddy and excited when he comes online. It's all very strange to me and I hate to admit I have fallen for somebody over the Internet because the idea seems lame and dumb to me in the past. I just don't know what to do because I feel like he is using me as a tool to get off sometimes. But yet I love doing it and I enjoy his company more than anything. This is so confusing!!! Please help! Thank you in advance and I wish all of you a good day!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2012): First of all, "MOST" teenagers DON'T do that kind of thing, the sensible ones do not.
Secondly, how can you say he's using you? From the sound of it you're just as much willing to go along with this as he is, so you're both using each other to satisfy each others needs.
If anyone is being used, its his girlfriend the poor woman. Probably living her life thinking she has a loyal boyfriend and completely unaware of what's going on behind her back!
It isn't nice to fall for someone that you can't have, and it does hurt, but I can only say you've brought this on yourself by taking things this far with a guy who's miles away and who already has a girlfriend.
As for what you "should" do, well none of us can tell you what you should do.
What I would do if I was you is decide whether or not you can carry on doing the things you do over the internet with him, allowing your feelings to grow, but knowing nothing will ever come of it.
Or...you can have a conscience, and a bit of self respect and cut contact forever with this guy and move on.
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