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female
age
51-59,
*adies
writes:I have had a major fall out with a good Male friend and colleague. He recently betrayed my trust. Long story short. We were good friends really trusted each other and did business together under our separate companies. I am married and he is single and I have always felt the attraction from him. He has even hinted on it but we have never acted on it. We would confide both personal and professional issues with each other and had a special bond. He went away on vacation and asked one of his employees to take care of a pressing matter for me. When I asked the employee when he would be coming to do the job he stated that he knew nothing about it. This was of much concern especially as it was important to certain people in my company. However I dropped the matter. When he got back from vacation we spoke and I told him that certain people in my company were mad at him for not getting the work taken care of. He said he would investigate the matter. He called back and I answered the phone and asked for a certain person in the company. He then proceeded to tell that person that after talking to his employee he was told that I was the one that had called off the job. I was absolutely stunned and shocked as not only was this not true but in light of our close friendship he should have called and clarified the matter with me before presenting it to anyone. He called several times after that to apologize – has left me a detailed voicemail and actually came and did the work himself. However I feel betrayed and have cut off all contact with him. My only communication with him is through my employees. It still hurts when I think about it and I wonder if I should have a face-to-face meeting with him or just let the relationship slide away. Please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2009): I don't see the actual faux pas now AFTER he remedied the situation with the client and extensively with you. Surely, if he apologized to you and to the client about his blaming you all should be fine. You can't draw blood from a stone and I think he has been sincere with you about the lie he committed.
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