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writes: Hey I'm a 19 year old female. Now before you try to picture me, let me just clear up the 19yr old thing. I moved out of my house when I was 17. I have my own apartment and a piece of property that I bought in Mexico as an investment. I have traveled to over 10 countries and I have a stable career in IR and am currently studying business law. The company I currently work for has a CTO who, in the last 2 years, has become my best friend and my dearest companion. I have never jumped into relationships and have always dated men who were MUCH older than me. My last boyfriend was 32. The CTO is 36 years old, single and absolutely brilliant. He has been my back-bone and my common sense since I met him. After an accident he came to check me out of the hospital, and took care of everything. He pushes me though school and to further my career and I do the same for him. Unfortunately this best friend thing has taken a turn in my head and I've began falling for him. At this point I am head over heels in love. I don’t know what to do. I am a sensible person, but this is something I just can't control. The way he acts around me is somewhat strange. We have kissed before and been somewhat intimate. Our actions are somewhat that of a couple but I don’t know what to do. I don’t know what is going on in his mind. Please help. Men? Women? Adults? I don’t think his motives are bad. He has actually met my father after a car crash that I was in and has literally been my angel. Are we just friends? Is this wrong? What do I do?
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reader, banannine +, writes (20 March 2007):
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so i stuck it out. its been like 8 months and we are closer than can be. yesterday he got me flowers and kissed me. oh... still in love.
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reader, bridget +, writes (2 June 2006):
 Hey there pet..
I must say after reading your question I kind of got a feel for the type pf person you are... Hard working, motivated, highly intelligent and very optimistic...
I understand that you have lived alot and in so little time as being only 19 though it does show in your question.
I think you shouldnt feel bad as you know the guy literally and in every aspect that you need to know him for what a relationship needs. Its not wrong, if you are worried about the age you shouldnt be.. its only a number and everyone in the world has one...
I think that you should try speaking to him in that kind of sense though like dropping hints if you cant see another way to show him.. saying something like "Am dying to see that new film in the cinema, My freind is busy.. Fancy comin with me???"
I hope i have been of help to you..
Kind Regards
Jacqueline
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): It really sounds like you and he have a great friendship..which is probably the best basis for an amazing, solid, long term relationship. He is older, you two seem to have much in common and you do seem mature, for your age. I say, go for it. Bonds like this are rare. Don't let this one get away. Sit him down and have a nice talk.
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