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writes: I have very recently broken up with my boyfriend of nearly 18 months. I love him very much but the chemistry has gone and I no longer feel attracted towards him. I know this because I have fallen for someone else, and it just so happens this someone is one of his best mates. We ended up together after a night out and since then the passion has been amazing. We want each other so much but there's nothing we can do becuase of my ex-boyfriend. He has told me he still loves me and wishes we were still together. I really like this other guy though, I'm only young and felt tied down with my ex. I really don't know what to do I want everyone to be happy but I don't think there is a way it can work. My ex has said he dosn't even want to be friends anymore! I still really care about him and he's like a best friend to me, but the chemistry between me and this other guy is like nothing I've ever felt before! He feels it too but has said he dosn't want to hurt his friend. My ex dosn't know about me and his mate and don't think I could ever tell him the truth! Please help me I have run out of solutions!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2006): I am in exactly the same position, I was gouing out with my ex for about 18 months and in the end I had enough he was treating me like crap and took me for granted. Towards the end of the relationship I started to confide in his best mate about my relationship and my problems. We ended up sleeping together and it was just a bit of fun at first. I then broke up with my ex and I am now currently seeing his best mate however we both haveno realised that it is more than fun and we both love each other, which sucks cos we cant tell my exor anyone.
You have to follow your heart. You and you ex are history and you both need to move on. Telling your ex is never gonna be easy. However you need to make sure that this guy is worth it and that it is not just a rebound/ going through a phase moment. If you truely think he is worth it and he wont do this to you (go off with your mate) then you should go for it. However just be aware of the consequenses (i.e are your exes friend the same as his mate, and will they take sides?)
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reader, harshbutfair  +, writes (15 September 2005):
 This is really a problem for your ex's mate, not you. He needs to do what he believes is right by his friend.
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