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writes: When my bf starts to massage me with his fingers to try and get me to have an orgasm, I become embarrassed an I cannot get an orgasm so I fake it. Help me so I can stop faking and start feeling an orgasm?
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reader, DoubleM  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 Okay, I will again explain the basic techniques to massage a woman to orgasm if you will first answer the following questions:
!. Have you ever had an orgasm? And if so, how did they (it) occur?
2. Do you masturbate, and have you ever masturbated to orgasm?
3. Does he massage (touch, rub, feel) only the outside of your vulva area?
4. Has he ever searched for or located your G-spot area (inside)?
5. Has your bf or anyone else ever performed cunnilingus for you? Do you have any kind of aversion to a man applying his tongue to your private area? This is probably not required to provide you an orgasm, but could greatly help.
As most others advised, faking it is of no value. But respond and I'll provide a near step-by-step guide that will likely bring about success.
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reader, Neeraj060  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 Look dear if you are not getting an orgasm,don't fake it..because you are being untrue to yourself and to your boyfriend.He is trying his best to please you it is not like that he is doing just for the heck of it.
Let him know it's not working and guide him on stuffs that you realy like... that way you would not hurt his feeling and both of you could enjoy.
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reader, Miss Potter  +, writes (10 December 2008):
 I agree with all previous posters - don't fake it!
If you are too embarassed to tell him or don't know how to tell him what you like - show him, guide his fingers and if he is doing it right let him know that it feels good.
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reader, The Gentle Man +, writes (10 December 2008):
 Faking is the worse thing a woman can do.
Tell him that its not working, but instead of slamming the cover shut on it suggest ways in which it can be improved.
Communication is the key to pretty much everything. Tell him you get embarrassed and what makes it embarrassing, and if possible way to make you feel more comfortable.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2008): Seems to me like you need to just relax. Is this a new relationship? I think you need to get to know each other's body better. That might help eliminate some embarassment.
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reader, fire dragon +, writes (10 December 2008):
 show him how to make you orgasm...you should show him what to do, as not everyone works the same he just has to find the right way to make you orgasm faking it will make it worse because you re misleading in making him think he s doing things right..and give him feedbak if you like it or not and what you like most
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