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writes:Okay, I'll keep this short,I've came here before for advice regarding the breaking up with my girlfriend.We are still together,It has been very rocky so far, and it has gotten to the point where I feel like I have not got the same feelings for her like I used to. I still love her, just perhaps not in that way. And I know I will smash her heart into a million pieces if I break up with her.We live in different states, 4 hours apart on the plane.We have been together the last few months, and now we are apart, I feel that I just want breathing room and not really interested in talking to her so much.I have contemplated breaking up with her for a looooong time, and even have done so for one night, then got back together the next day.We have been together for 2 years nearly, and it seems that all the time and effort I put into the relationship will be for nothing if I end it, but then again, I don't think I see a future with her.The sex is great, but I want something more than that, and we do get a long great, but I'm just not attracted to her overly anymore, like I used to.Here's where things get complicated, I started talking to another girl over the computer, and in flirty ways,I know this is wrong, but I think it's best I end it with my current girlfriend.I just need some advice. It's hard to write out what I'm trying to say, I just need something to read from other people really.Thanks.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (18 August 2010):
 Sometimes I feel like I've got to
Run away Ive got to
Get away..I was thinking Tainted Love, lol
U live 4 states away, ur young, and being in this LDR is causing u to lose interest. Its normal and understandable u cant change the way u feel. Ur ready to explore other options, I would suggest the next gf be in ur area. I would break up with her asap the longer u wait the more it will hurt her and the nastier the break up will be. Just break it to her gently over the phone, if u cant fly 4 hours to dump her..which I would give u credit for, but its not ideal for u. Let her know that ur heart isnt into anymore, the chemistry isnt there, ur doing whats best for u and whats fair to her ..Break-ups suck and she's gonna hurt but the sooner u break up with her the quicker the grieving process starts for her. Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2010): You have to end it with her. Be open and honest and as direct as possible. She will be hurt but she will get over it in time (and a lot quicker if you are completely honest at this point). The time invested in this relationship is not wasted, there are experiences and parts from this that you will be able to learn from and take forward into your next relationship and the one after that. If you're looking elsewhere it's a sure sign that all is not well with your current relationship. You're not married, you've no kids - time to make the break before you get any further down the road.
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