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writes: I know this guy who's 2 years older than me. We used to hang out while doing projects and event planning but recently I stepped away from all that because my GCSEs are this year. I need to take some time off. Earlier this year he had asked to meet me privately but I said I wasn't free because I have feelings for him and since it's a year of major exams for me. I didn't want to get my heart broken and get distracted. I actually asked if it was anything important and he said that it wasn't and that he would text me another time to meet. Only thing is, it's been more than 3 weeks and he hasn't texted back. I also recently found out that he might be interested in me from some of our mutual friends. I'm so confused. What should I do? Is this the end even before it actually begins?
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reader, TrueLoveWaits2016 +, writes (28 January 2018):
3 weeks is a long time not text someone, then again I can understand hesitation on his end. Not saying you are making excuses, but he may think that because a lot of people will do that so they don't have to reject someone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2018): You must focus on your exams. I think you already know this or you wouldn't have checked with us for support and advice.
He'll still be around after exams; if he is as interested as he says he is. You have to keep a good balance between schoolwork and other activities. Schoolwork is your top priority! If he doesn't understand that he's a bad choice; and if you can't see that, I hope our advice will clear it up for you!
Good luck on those exams, kiddo! Kill-it!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 January 2018):
I'd just focus on exams. If he is interested in you, he will be interested when you are done with them.
And if HE isn't single by then, there will be PLENTY of other guy, some who might even be a better fit.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (26 January 2018):
You did the right thing by focusing on your exams, so please don't go back on it now.He may move on, but that just means it wasn't meant to be. Once your exams are over, *then* ask if he's still interested. Until then, it really is best to focus on your exams. I didn't get a chance to do mine and, whilst I have a job now, I struggled to get into college (UK), couldn't go to university (I couldn't afford to anyway) and had to explain to my employers why I didn't have any GCSEs. Most employers didn't understand or just chose someone who did have them.Honestly, you can do well without GCSEs, but it generally takes much longer and is harder, so make the most of your education, while you can. Boys really are just a distraction when you're in school. He's also older, which means he likely wants more from a relationship than would be a good idea at your age. That's not the main reason you should leave it be for now, though.Good luck with your exams! :)
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reader, Phil052 +, writes (26 January 2018):
I think you are right to concentrate on your exams this year. A relationship at your age can be a huge distraction. Once your exams are over, you can see if he is still interested, or look for someone else. My son is the same age as you and he is concentrating on his exams until June!
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