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female
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writes:My ex has commitment issues due to his past relationship and the woman not standing by him when his mother died (over 2 yrs ago). Now after 3 months he is trying to get back into my life. I love him dearly and really think he still loves me. But will I just be stepping into a can of worms to let him back into my life? He retreats into his cave when he gets upset and that was really hard for me. ( I thought he was very childish) Deep down he is a good person but the barriers he can put up hurt me. Any suggestions..Do I let him back in? Or should I just let him go? This is tough because I truly loved him and still do. I was his first girlfriend in 2 years. Do you think he was just so deeply hurt that he is afraid? But I don't want to be hurt either. I saw him a few days ago but haven't talked to him since which is painful. I need advice. Reply to this Question
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reader, shelly8 +, writes (8 June 2009):
I am actually going through almost the exact same situation with my ex. His trust issues broke us up. He retreated as well when he was really upset. I'll tell you the same thing my father told me.
He will always act this way with you unless you set some ground rules. Although it might hurt, you may have to turn into an actress if he doesn't want to at least work on some of his issues. The relationship won't work if you don't address the past issues and take it slow so both of you have time to work through them. Best of luck.
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