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writes:my ex boyfriend was at the same party as me last week ... when i see him i usually have a convo with him cos im still friendly with him even thou he broke my heart .. after stuff that he told my best mate i decided i had enough of making an effort with him so i decided to keep my distance from him that night .. it suceeeded cos he said hi to me and that was it so i knew where i stood with him ... the next night i was receiving heaps of texts off him like did u enjoy the party and he was asking how everything was and stuff anyway it was getting really late and i fell asleep .. in the morning i woke up with 15 text messages from him saying y rnt u talking to me and where r u and stuff like that .. i was really surprised considering he doesn't want me to txt him lol .. anyway he appolgised in he morning and said he was drinking ... so i asked him y he always txts me when hes drinking and y does he do it to me cos he knows i still love him loads he said he didnt know and that i didnt deserve it at all and hes really sorry .. we werre texting all day which was weird cos we dont really see or text eachother... later that evening he txt me and asked me if i was up 4 a root .. i said yea cos i love him and want to be with him ..i went around to his place .. when i got there he gave t me the biggest cuddle which never happens .. we had sex but this time it was diff cos he was just wanting to kiss me and be more affectionate than he ususally was ... we have had sex once b4 after our break up but this time was different .. i was saying my goodbyes to him but he satred to cudddle me and made me lay down to go to sleep so i did we both fell asleep in the morning i was leaving cos i had to work early as i was getting ou t of bed he said u cant go till i get a cuddle so i gave him one it was great just to hold him was awesome he walked me to the door and he wanted more cuddles ..the thing is with him hes not an affectionate person and the last time we had sex he wanted me to go home and was no where near as affectionate with me wats the go wiith him
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reader, Griffo +, writes (29 March 2009):
 Sound like he was already an affectionate person before but wasn't really sure about you until he lost you.
Firstly, it's very questionable how he calls you only asking straight out for a "root" durins SMS's can you see how because you love him he got what he wanted? The cuddles could easily be a way just to reinforce that in the future, but for you a really good way to tell if he's truly genuine is to do social things with him. like going to the movies, going to the pub or a club, just hanging out again... If hes into it hes genuine because he wants to be with you... if hes not then he won't. this will take a few weeks or so to figure out.
On the other hand, Sometimes it takes a loss to realise how important that one person really was to you, but most of the time its too late to go back... In your case, a very rare case, it seems to be fine.
Just give it a few weeks, see how keen he is to hang out with you socially and that will weigh up the truth.
Let us know how you go
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2009): He knows you like him enough to hook up but I don't think there's more to it than that for him. I wouldn't read in to it, better to just stay away before he breaks your heart again!
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