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writes:My exboyfriend texted me a pic he had taken of me on his phone while we were together. No words were attached. Just a picture of me sitting in a chair with my(our) 2 dogs. A couple weeks before, he texted me and said that he was sorry for what he had done and he missed me. He even refered to me by my petname. I never respond to his texts by the way. Haven't for months. He texts me about every 2 weeks regardless. He left me for another woman 6 months ago and is still living with her to this day. Do all guys keep pictures of their ex's on their phone that long after they 'move on'? Why send a picture with no words attached? Anyone had this happen to them? What do you think it means?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): It just means you are a back up plan if things don't work out between his current girlfriend and until he meets the next one who he'll dump you for again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): CaringGuy is spot on. Change your number.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (22 March 2011):
This is classic 'spare tyre' behaviour.
Sadly, what this means is that he's keeping you around should things with this other woman break down. He left you for her, and he lives with her now. But, should that end, he may well need a bed for the night and as it is you are still there.
Most men don't keep the photos on the phones of their ex's - unless they are still in love or planning on keeping the woman around. Given that your ex dumped you for someone else, I'd bet my life on the fact he's just keeping them around to keep you as a spare.
He sends just the picture because it's the easiest way to keep your attention and make you think he still cares.
It means that you're being potentially set up, and most certainly kept around in case the other thing fails. He'll come back, stay for a few months then find someone else.
Bottom line? Change your phone number and forget him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): I think it means that he's a jerk. He left you for another woman but wants to keep you close enough, just in case things don't work out with the other woman. So, he sends you random texts, pics, whatever to keep you thinking about him. I know this because I did the same thing to my ex-husband. I left him for another man but wanted him on the back burner, just in case. I look back at myself doing this and can't believe I was such a mess. It was unfair to him and what this guy is doing is unfair to you. Next time he sends you a pic/text, reply with two simple words "fuck off". Maybe he'll get the picture!
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