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writes:So, my boyfriend and I broke up last July. We had only been seeing each other for about 3 months, but we were very close and got along great. One day, out of the blue, he sent me an email and broke up with me. He said I wasn't outgoing enough for him. i was totally devastated!!For the past few months, we have kept in touch off and on through text messages. Last week, he asked me to go have a drink and play poool. I agreed and we did just that. It was a great time. He sent me a message the next day saying that he had a great time. Oddly enough, the next night, I ran into him while out to eat with friends. He called me after we both had left the restaurant asked if I wanted to come over. I agreed, again. We ended up having a wonderful evening talking, catching up and (of course) having sex. He insisted I stay the night and he left early the next morning for a ski trip. He told me to stay in bed and he would call me later so we could get together. He called later but was too tired to see me. (I knew that would happen since we were up til 2 am and he left for his trip at 5:30.)Later that evening, he sent me a texted "Was it just me or was that intense, passionate, beautiful, touching moments we had?". It has been a couple of days and I have talked to him (on the phone and in text messages). He keeps saying he is "blown away" by our evening together but has not asked to see me again. Is he playing me or is there something there?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): Thanks for the feedback! I'm not really sure what my take on it is. He is a very sincere person so I don't think he would say things he doesn't mean ("intense, passionate, beautiful, touching moments" & "blown away"). I guess I am just afraid of being hurt again and don't want to invest too much of myself if he is not interested. I will take your advice and ask him directly...assuming I see him again! If not, then I guess I have my answer!! Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2009): It's hard for us to know since we don't know him! What is your take on it? Maybe he realizes he made a mistake and wants you back. But I would be very cautious if I were you, you don't want to be hurt by him again. Take it very slow and the next time you are face to face...ask him what he is doing, confront him. Explain that you have been hurt by him before, and don't want a repeat of the same. I wouldn't do this over the phone. You need to look him in the eyes, watch his body language, and make your own judgement as to what he wants from you! I always say, open communication is the most important key to healthy relationships...that and honesty!
Good Luck!
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