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writes: I've been with a man on and off for 6 years and at one stage we got engaged. Unfortunately it was a rocky relationship due to his parallel relationship with alcohol, but since breaking up for the 'final' time in December 2004, shortly after moving in together (at last).He has now vowed to stay T-total and commit to going to 'AA' meetings... so far so good, and just recently we have started getting back in touch and even meeting again. AA has also made him stand back and taken a reality check and it seems that at last he has realised what sort of person he was and is now aiming to put everything right between us (we both have kids too). He is going out of his way to be nice, put me and my kids first, but I can't help feeling that deep down he killed the initial feeling of love and fun that you feel when the relationship is new and will I ever be able to forget all the bad times and trust that he will never touch the alcohol or turn bad again.As with all situations there is of course another guy who is interested in getting to know me, but being that I have a very strong conscience, I could never string them both along together, and so, need advice on whether to take a gamble and forget the saying "better the devil you know" and take a chance on the new guy?Help...
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2006): I know that you have strong fellings for this guy ive been with mine for 7yrs but when there is too much going on like drinking too much you may want to only be there for him as his best friend and take that chance with a new guy with no bad history
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reader, becky05 +, writes (18 July 2005):
Only you can make the choice. If you genuinely believe your ex has changed and you still love him, then give him another chance, tell him, however that he will have to continue to prove he has changed before you will trust him fully again.
If you dont feel that you can do this, then take a chance on the new guy and break off all ties with your ex for good.
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