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writes:Well me and my girlfriend have been together for 3+ years we recently broke up. I have tried contacting her and we have met twice after the breakup. Both times we had sex and she says she really doesn't want to see me. She says every time she sees me she wants to have sex and starts getting her feelings back for me. I still like her in some way. But I also have a feeling she has strong feelings for me. I am very confused now and dont know what to do. My question is if she has feelings for me why did she break up and in her exact words she wants to stay on good terms and feels she cannot see me this summer since her feelings come back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 July 2009): I think that when two people break up, when you see each other again, the feelings come rushing back. Your girlfriend broke up with you for a reason, and yet when she meets up with you, it sounds like her resolve weakens and she falls for you again. But then after, she regrets it.
I have been in the same situation with a guy. I knew it was the right thing to not be with him. But if I saw him when I was out, the flood of emotions hit me hard, and the temptation to get back with him was strong.
This may be what is happening here, and is probably why she said she doesn't want to see you during the summer.
I would suggest giving things more time. Try to not contact her, give her space to sort her head and feelings out. It sounds like emotions are all over the place for both of you, and it will remain confusing until you both have had time to think.
So try giving her some space and time. If she does want to try again, she will probably contact you. And she may very well want to stay friends with you. But like I said, it comes later. First, time is uauslly needed to get used to the break-up. Wait for things to settle a bit first. Good luck. x
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