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female
age
41-50,
*female
writes:Hi everyoneI know that this may sound strange, I've gotten what I wanted but am afraid it will have the opposite affect? Now that we are getting over the fact that he emotionally cheated with his ex girlfriend, one of the boundaries I set was that he must have no more contact with her and ignore her when she tries to contact him, this has been working fine and she finally has backed off. But now I wonder if he will miss her and actually wonder why she's not calling him or anything, I'm afraid he'll start thinking about her and end up getting in touch with her again.Advice needed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2009): I think that you are trying to control something that you have no control over. How can you control somebodies feelings? If he at one point will go back to her, what can you do about it? He agreed not to see her or contact anymore, that's a good sign, but how can you control his further actions? There is a big trust issue here. You set the boundaries, he complied, but you still don't trust him 100%.
It's really up to you now. I think you need to calm down, get negative thoughts out of your head, enjoy your time together, and see what happenes in a future.
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