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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ex Boyfriend wants me back. There is a huge problem?It's been six months since I broke up with my boyfriendMy ex bf is 22Wants to go to the armyhas no job at the momentNot in school (college)No h.s. diploma ( but i think he is in the process of getting one maybe)No Car- license got revoked because of too many ticketsI have myself togetherI'm getting a jobI'm in college full timeI dont drink, smoke, or have sex (I'm a virgin)He says that wants to go to the army, but he needs his h.s. diploma or GED obviouslyHis Best friend is in the process of going to army too with his girlfriend next year after he's finished with the testsHis best friend has offered him to stay with him and his Gf in Texas b/c he wants a new life and start over because he doesnt want to be associate with people who are of no good influence. So basically he feels he can't do anything else out here in CA as far as getting a good stable job and he feels it's kinda of hard for him to get himself togetherHowever, he truly loves and care about me still and I do too. I know it can't work as of now. I broke up with him because I was putting too much emphasis on what my folks thought about him because he doesn't have himself together yet. It really broke his heart, but everything became too stressful for me with him saying that I'm the one to blame for our downfall.He was saying he can't help the way he feels about me, he truly loves me with all his heart, but I'm making everything complicated for him and it's stressing him out.My family was feeling that he was not my type, he had nothing to offer, and he wasn't quite good enough for meHe was angry at me for not making my own decisions when it came to our relationship at the time.Everyone had a say so about what I ought to do. But, he was talking disrespectful at the time saying how it makes him want to be with someone else (another woman) when I didn't spend time with him and how I was lucky to be with him.We didn't get a chance to spend as much time together which is what he is extremely upset about. I helped him get into a community college, signed him up for his classes, and printed out the Financial aid papers for him and kinda help him get set up. But it was a lil far for him bc he didnt have a car, plus he couldn't turn in the financial papers on time, so he's currently not in school right now.In a sense, my family was right. He didn't have much to offer me because he had so much going on in his life that he needed to handle. It would be a stressful for me.I felt concerned about his future and what he's not doing as of yet. I was extremely worried about what people would think of him bc he didnt have those things yet and my decision to be with him.
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reader, Cupid 2011 +, writes (2 June 2011):
 Sounds like you have answered your own question
You have supported your ex as much as you can
You should ask yourself what do you want for yourself
Sounds as though your ex bf very much want to escape
from his unemployment situation He is willing
to leave the country Has he given you any reason to
take him back would you leave the country with him
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