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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I got married 6 months ago and the week after I got back from honeymoon i bumped into my ex-boyfriend in town. My ex and I split as I found out he was addicted to phone sex lines, discovered he lied a lot and started to have feelibgs for my now husband.Since i bumped into him we have been meeting up every couple of weeks and an affair started. I am in love with my ex and have drifted away from my husband. My ex is also seeing someone and recently hasn't been making time to see me insisting that he is very busy and is planning on moving in with his girlfriend. This has left me feeling stupid and used so I have finished the affair. Is it possible to fall in love with my husband, forget my stupid ex and start over? If i told my husband what has been going on and what I have been feeling he would be devastated and leave me. I dont want to hurt him and our famailies but I cant help loving my ex! Please help!
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reader, agony_uncle_r +, writes (15 April 2007):
maybe you should of thought about not hurting your husband befor you started an affair?
or did that thought not cross your selfish mind?
tell your husband, face the result of your horrid actions and let him find someone who has the respect and heart to treat him how he deserves to be treated. not lied to a decieved by the person who he was ready to commit to for life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2007): A lot of people may think the worst of you for this, and i have to admit that was pretty bad what you did. However, it seems as though you never got over your ex and it's becasue you loved him and still do very much.Love is a two way street, he does not love you like he should or maybe at all. It is unfortunate when your love is not returned. My answer to your question, is Yes ! yes ! Yes ! you can fall inlove with your husband. Here are things that you can do, Firstly, start looking at all the great qualities that he has in him. DO NOT contact your ex at all.get rid of any way of contacting him. Keep the honeymoon in your lives for a while. DO NOT compare them. Your husband must have something that in him special to you, after all you married the guy.Give him a fair chance, just forget what happened with you and your ex and start new. You can do this. You can do anything you want, just set your mind to it. Marriage could be beautiful, it's how you make it. Good luck my friend.
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