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writes:So i started dating my best friend of 5 years. I tell her EVERYTHING, theres no one in the world that I care about or love or trust as much as i do her. But she ended our relationship after 5 months,when everything was perfect, there was nothing wrong with us. She admits that we were perfect and that shes deeply in love with me and cares about me more than anything on this earth. Were only 16 but we can both honestly say we wouldn't mind being together forever. But she doesn't think shes ready for a serious relationship and im just dumbfounded. The problem is that we still talk now, we back on that best friend level n i dont wanna be there. I mean we both tell each other how were so in love. We even talk about building a future together one day.But every time i bring up the topic of us getting back together she bursts into tears and tells me how she just cant right now, andI'm just going crazy. I'm madly in love with her and i know she is madly in love with me. I just want her to be mine again,i don't want anyone else to have her. But she just says the same ole we just cant rite now. It really pisses me off when she talks about other dudes all the time, n tries to hide her feelings from me.She wont even hang out with me anymore, because she knows well end up kissing and things of that nature. Which already happened once and we ended up sleeping together. Which she says isn't right since were not dating. So all we do is talk on the phone everyday all day. I'm scared that all this love will eventually go away and we wont ever have our happiness together.I just don't know what to do, i don't want to get over her,shes the best thing to ever happen to me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 August 2010): Did she say why she can't right now? You all are very young and maybe she doesn't want to be so serious right now. As difficult as it is for you, you really have to respect her wishes. It might be better to distant yourself for a while. It's really hard to remain friends with someone when you have a romantic interest and the other person doesn't want the same, can't have them same, or whatever. Whatever you do, don't try to be possessive of her because that could really push her away. Let your love for her allow her to do what she needs to do for herself. And in the meantime, I think you should pull away from this until you can be okay with it just being a friendship again.
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