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*emguy06
writes:Hello,My girlfriend and I had an argument two days ago. She called me and I ended up calling her back. She answered jokingly and I played along by joking back with her.Prime example; the old commercial when everyone was calling each other up saying wassup. It wasn't the same thing but similar. She got p'd off from my response because she thought I was seriously making fun of her. When actually I was having a good time talking to her. She ended up cussing me out and hung up her phone. Then sent me a text claiming that I was wrong. So I tried to call her back and she text me back saying that she didn't want to talk to me right now. Then I asked her wth is going on? She ended up telling me what the problem was but I just didn't get it. She then told me when she gets back that she wants her stuff and that's it. We had a good relationship so far and I wasn't willing to let it go over something minor. I'm trying to salvage our relationship if it can be salvaged. So my questions are: Should I just let her go? Or should I be the bigger person and call her back by saying it was my fault even though it wasn't? Or should I wait and see if she will contact me?Thanks
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (6 March 2010):
 Great! If you are meant to be together ,nothing will separate you .
Give and take some and everything will be O.K!
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reader, gemguy06 +, writes (6 March 2010):
gemguy06 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are talking now. As of right now everything is cool.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (4 March 2010):
The storm came and the bridge went down . Now is the time to build bridges and repair your communication lines.
You are the man .As you have already done your part, move on and act like nothing happens .
Don't keep those harsh words in your heart. Forgive and forget is the best policy.
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reader, gemguy06 +, writes (3 March 2010):
gemguy06 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell we still haven't spoken to each other and it has been since last weekend. I believe she's trying to get my attention on a social networking website. I post something then she post something. I believe she did that to see if I would respond. Thanks to the both of you.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2010):
You tried to resolve it there and then but she was not in the mood to compromise.
Maybe, she was so angry at that time that she did not really paid attention to what you said or she felt that you need a more severe reprimanding...LOL!
Maybe after a cooling of period ,she may come to her rational self . You could do the usual thing and pretend nothing happened and see how she would react.
If plan A does not work ,apply plan B.
Good luck to you.
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reader, gemguy06 +, writes (2 March 2010):
gemguy06 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionquiet-echo,
Thanks for your input. I was already leaning towards what you suggested. I mean there has a couple instances that I took the blame but for this argument...well I can't do it. I was having fun with her since she initiated the conversation. You would expect this from an 18yr. The sad thing about it she is 42. I believes she has a short temper. I been around her when she went off on several people just like that. I believe she is expecting me to come running back begging. I don't know about that this time.
Laura1318,
Thanks for your input. But the way I see it when we had the argument I tried to resolve it right then and there. She didn't want to listen so I believe I did my part. Actually there are three sides to the story. Mine, her's, and the truth. Trust me my story is the reflection of the truth.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2010):
Everything happens for a reason.
If each were to stand on their side of the divide,then the twain shall never meet.
It would be a contest of wills and who loves whom the most.
In the end, the one who loves the most will realize that it is all vanities.
What is worth living for and what is worth dying for?
The answer to both is the same , only love.
You do it because you love her and want her to be happy.
For love conquers all.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2010):
Too bad, Hitler was not a woman...LOL!
You may have your doubts but it has been proven many times and it works because she is a woman.
“Find a guy who calls you beautiful instead of hot, who calls you back when you hang up on him, who will lie under
the stars and listen to your heartbeat, or will stay awake just to watch you sleep... wait for the boy who kisses your forehead,
who wants to show you off to the world when you are in sweats, who holds your hand in front of his friends, who
thinks you're just as pretty without makeup on.
One who is constantly reminding you of how much he cares and how lucky his is to have you.... The one who turns to his friends and says, 'that's her.'”
-samwilson213-
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2010):
Make love and not war...
Seek peace with yourself and your surroundings.
Don't wish for troubles ,for troubles will find you .
Think positive always .
And your life will have happiness and tranquility...
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2010):
As you said this is a minor issue and you should clear them up as soon as possible .
The crux of this problem is not deciding who is in the right or wrong.
It is about solving the problem and doing the right things to return the relationship back on track .
It does not matter what or how you do it as long as you get the results you want.
It is not about who is right or wrong. There are two versions here. One from your point of view and the other from your g/f.
What good will it do if you are proven right but you lose your g/f?
I cannot say that you are totally right because we have not heard from the other side.
To be fair , we should also listen to her version before we can make a better, just , fair and balanced judgment as to who is right or wrong.
Just listening to one side of the story can result in a bias judgment.
From her point of view, she is adamant that she is right .
Most men will try to avoid conflicts with their g/f's and they would rather give way or let her win than to lose her.
During courtships, most men would take whatever is thrown at them because they are scared of losing their love. They can become anything she wants...LOL!
Don't have a big ego or self righteousness. If you are a big man ,you would just let her have her way and take whatever she throws at you .
Not standing up to her does not mean that you are weak but you are strong enough to know there are times, you cannot win some battles.
Raise your white flag and issue your unconditional surrender...LOL!
In time , you won't even remember what the problem was about.
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (2 March 2010):
If you want to end it quickly , go to her and apologize even if it is not your fault.Be a big man.
Eat humble pie. She knows she is wrong inside her heart but because of pride and vanities as most women do not like to be told that they are wrong.
It also shows her how much she in your heart.
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reader, gemguy06 +, writes (2 March 2010):
gemguy06 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy apologies. I shouldn't have add that part. She basically told me that she was upset with the way I was replying(jokingly)back to her. Trust me that is exactly how the whole situation went down.
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